My daughter was always kind-hearted, compassionate, respectful, gentle, considerate caring and loving. She was a very deep and spiritual child, who loved everything about Yiddishkeit.
School was somewhat challenging because she’s certainly not a cookie cutter child. Deep thinking, inquisitive and very curious are traits that are sometimes considered a nuisance by teachers and schools. Memorizing, sitting through long lectures, writing notes and taking tests were all difficult tasks.
(I can very well relate because I was the same way in school.)
It was in her sixth/seventh grade year that I realized how detrimental school was becoming for her. Unable to recognize my daughter’s unique qualities, all they could see in her was negativity. The general attitude of the school was “follow the rules, no explanations, no discussions. only negativity and punishment.”
My daughter’s passion for Yiddishkeit was diminishing rapidly, and she began resenting Yiddishkeit. My husband and I met with the principals to try and make her situation better. Get ready to hear this, because it is truly shocking, but 100% true: The principal actually said to us, “Oh, we gave up on her a long time ago,” (with a downward hand motion).
WOW!!! We kick ourselves today as we reflect on that moment, as we ask each other “how could we have kept her in that school for even one second after that remark!”
But keep her there we did, trying to help her survive till high school. Upon extensive research into high schools, all fingers were pointing me in one direction, and that direction was to Mrs. Dena Gorkin’s Bnos Chomesh Academy.
Although we had some challenges, I realized that I was one of the luckier ones. So many teenage girls go through struggles similar to our daughter’s. Some of them even act out in harmful ways. Today’s challenges seem to be getting scarier and scarier. Parents (some of them from my daughter’s class) confided in me that they wish they had the courage to pull their daughters out of more typical schools, but they couldn’t bear being different. They said they knew their child needed and deserved to go to a school like Bnos Chomesh, but they just couldn’t do it.
Baruch HaShem my daughter entered 9th grade and Bnos Chomesh was everything we dreamed of – and then some!
Once in a conversation with Mrs. Gorkin, she explained to me that every girl is a precious gem with a special Neshama, and she sees each one not merely for who she is now, but for who she has the potential to become. As she explained it all to me, I heard the utmost sincerity in her heart, the loving acceptance of every single girl.
And isn’t that the way it should be?
Isn’t that what we want every educator to see in our own child, who may be struggling, or rebelling, or unable to fit in?
Isn’t that what Ahavas Yisroel is precisely about?
Isn’t that the one biggest request of Hashem from us?
Mrs. Gorkin has come so very far in accepting, instilling, loving, teaching and helping our daughters. She has been so utterly instrumental in helping them overcome their challenges.
Mrs. Gorkin is not only there for the students but is ALWAYS available to discuss and work out ways to help parents deal with issues that come up. Full-time principal, school founder, teacher, and best of all trusting, caring, loyal friend to us all, students and parents alike.
The next incredible accomplishment that Mrs. Gorkin has excelled in – one that can also make or break a school, or any institution for that matter – is her choice of staff. I’m not sure how she does this, because Bnos Chomesh has – by far – the very BEST STAFF EVER! I wouldn’t believe it if I didn’t see it – every single day!
My daughter is not effusive, so you can imagine my surprise when she came home one day and said of one of the endlessly devoted staff members “Wow, Mommy, Simi is, literally, like my school Mom!” Now for some, that may not be a big deal, but for my daughter – that was huge!
This wonderful woman, Simi literally made the last four years of MY life (oh yes and my daughter’s too) A LOT easier, and happier than I could ever have imagined.
My daughter’s academic “struggles” suddenly became exciting challenges. Through the tremendously talented, patient, loving and devoted staff, she started to really learn for the first time in her life, and soaking it all up! If she had difficulty understanding a concept it was explained in a different way. Eventually, my daughter who despised school, began to love school!!!
I thank Hashem every single day that I was able to send my daughter to Bnos Chomesh.
Throughout her childhood, I watched my pure, angelic, precious daughter transform into a very angry, resentful, almost bitter teen. And then miraculously transform back.
All the resentment is gone and all of the love and appreciation of Yiddishkeit has resurfaced. Her questions were answered in ways that helped her truly appreciate the beauty of Torah and Chassidus.
It has now been five-plus years since I began feeling like my daughter was lost from Yiddishkeit forever. Yet I sit here tonight and cherish this moment as she has just graduated from High School and received her well-earned High School diploma (along with her Regent diploma as well!). I am exploding with emotions, all positive, happy and proud ones. My jaw muscles literally ache from the hours of smiling ear to ear throughout the most awe-inspiring graduation I have ever attended.
Bnos Chomesh is not a school, or at least not one like any other I’ve ever come across. Bnos Chomesh is a family. When your child attends BCA, they automatically become part of this family. Every student, staff member and even parents become connected to this family. It is a family that loves, cares, shares and all are utterly devoted to one another.
I confidently look forward to my daughter’s future as a Bas Yisroel. Her accomplishments throughout these four years have been truly awe-inspiring to see. I feel so blessed to know that she is starting off her adulthood infused with so much knowledge and inspiration from the Torah with the Rebbe’s guidance and directives to help her lead a truly productive and successful life!
Bnos Chomesh is a gift from Hashem. It is a tremendous resource for something that is so badly needed today. I hope and pray that any parent that feels like their child can gain from a Bnos Chomesh education will have the insight and sense to become part of something so great!