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Our Cleaning Lady Stole

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my cleaning lady rox!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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my cleaning lady rox!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow!
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Wow!

Thanx 4 posting!

happened to me
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happened to me
don't leave your kids with a goya
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don't leave your kids with a goya
what to do first
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what to do first
people WAKE-UP
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people WAKE-UP

stop being naive, none of them could never be trusted,

i can tell you what happened to dozens of yidishe families in boro park who “TRUSTED” their “innocent hard working” poor cleaning ladies and nannies.
you wouldn’t wanna know how those innocent workers finished their cleaning carrier,
yidden be smart, don’t wait for a catastrophe to open your eyes, keep your eyes open NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wow
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wow

Powerful

cameras
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cameras

put up cameras and let them know u have them

i dont let the cleaning into my bedroom
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i dont let the cleaning into my bedroom

EVER!

Sam
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Sam
FINALLY A WAKE-UP CALL....ALL MY FRIENDS CALL ME PARANOID!
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FINALLY A WAKE-UP CALL....ALL MY FRIENDS CALL ME PARANOID!

i NEVER understand why ppl always look at me as if i’m the weird one when i ask if the cleaning lady they’re sending me is trustworthy, etc…. Like I”m paranoid or something… It’s simply NAIVE of ppl who leave these women they don’t know in their homes alone, or in large areas unattended/unsupervised for long periods of time….how much worse so leaving your kids with them… do you know where your cleaning lady lives? do you put things out to ‘test’ her and see if they go ‘missing’? seriously, to comment number 10 – just ‘not letting’ her in… Read more »

grow up
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grow up

seriousill ppl grow up. don’t pretend like this isthe first tiem ppl have had cleaning ladys steal from them.
its a problum that had been ocuring for as long as anyone can remember.
if your so nervous ur cleaning lady might be stealing… then don’t hire a cleaning person, and clean up yourself.
and if u don’t have time… then figure out waht to do.
but odn’t post a articly on c.o.l about it bec… its not the first time or the last time for it to occur.

two cleaning lady/nanny horror stories
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two cleaning lady/nanny horror stories

A friend from Williamsburg shared with me two cleaning lady/nanny horror stories that unfortunately occurred there, G-d forbid. The first one involved a family who had a woman come to clean and baby-sit their newly born baby so the mother could go back to work. As time passed they noticed that their baby wasn’t behaving normally, something wasn’t right. One time the nanny couldn’t come, so the mother stayed with her children. At one point the baby cried bitterly and wouldn’t be appeased regardless of what the mother did. Her seven year old then came to the mother and asked… Read more »

Interesting
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Interesting

Interesting article, thanks for making people aware.

Hub a bisel sechel velche sort zachen meleight afen reshet far alle tzu zen. Zeh lo shtetl, m’ken arein leigen mentchen in sakone.

to number two
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to number two

done be so sure

I'm sure every other commenter is going to hate this but,
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I'm sure every other commenter is going to hate this but,

If cleaning ladies were paid a living wage, perhaps they would not need to steal.

Or you could choose to hire a Jew to clean. In eretz yisroel, there are plenty of yidden who don’t find it beneath them to clean houses.

I did it myself when I was in sem. As my mother said, there is no shame in hard, honest, work!

MAKE A WEBSITE TO REPORT
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MAKE A WEBSITE TO REPORT

MAKE A WEBSITE Where people could report a insident and post a name and picture of that cleaning lady, it can serve like a D&B or credit agency for cleaning ladies, and the cleaning ladies will know if they mess up every jewish community will know about it.

Stop hiring illegal cleaning ladies!
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Stop hiring illegal cleaning ladies!

You are stealing from the government by hiring illegal workers.

#14
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#14

too shockingly, true heard this one myself…

DON'T  GENERALIZE
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DON'T GENERALIZE

Firstly, i agree wholeheatedly with number 17. Let more jewish people do cleaning and you can then hire a jewish cleaner. Secondly, the photo shows a hispanic lady cleaning. What if a jewish person was the cleaner? A jew never steals? perhaps one can get get a cleaner where the cleaners are checked first? In relation to kashrus issues and nannies, my late father told a story from Vienna where the nanny used to say Shmah with the children before they went to bed and she eventually converted to Judaism. Non-Jews will often have more respect for kashrus than a… Read more »

Adam Curry
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Adam Curry

We have had the same cleaner for a number of years. Though I would like to trust her, we always hide jewelery and valuables in the safe before she comes. I also put my wife’s pocket book and cell phone away so that she wont be tempted to tamper with our belongings. A few weeks ago our neighbor who uses this cleaner told us she was missing one of the childrens’ bracelets, and the next time the cleaner came she was actually wearing it!! And the cleaning lady said “sorry miss, sorry” with some lame excuse. Never, never trust any… Read more »

To #21
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To #21

Why is this racist? It was respectful and factual. Look how careful they were not to “steal” from the thief! I for one appreciate this wake up call. AS much as you know these stories, it’s so much more real to read a factual account like this one. I will be making some major changes. Even if it’s just a r i s k, why risk it? Btw, there is a new book, I forget the name, I’ll post it later, about Halachos in the Kitchen. There’s a whole chapter about leaving housekeeping help alone at home, and it is… Read more »

grrrr
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grrrr

My cleaning lady gets 11 off the books. Thats more then minimum wage with no taxes to pay. Noone should say we aren’t paying them enough so they need to steal. They’d steal if we were paying them 20 an hour.

rivkie
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rivkie

Dont put a stumbling block before the blind……never leave valuables around. Or, if you cannot lock up all valuables, keep an eye on the cleaning around. I used to send the kids in and out of hte room the cleaning lady was working in constantly so she would never be completely alone or feel “comfortable” to steal. And I would even check their purses or bags when they were in another room. You cannot trust a goy. It is as simple as that. You have to be tactful, diplomatic….but not trusting.

foolish posts
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foolish posts

First of all, you should never trust a stranger jew or non-jew with your most precious belongings (your children). Second, halacha has a lot to say about trusting non-jews specifically (kashrus notwithstanding). Generalizing is a fact of life and is used in Torah all the time. In addition, only a fool would use a possible exception as a rule. If people had to pay more for cleaning help they would probably not use help that often. Also, if someone steels due to their has the lack of morals they would probably steal even if you paid them more. The government… Read more »

pikaboo
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pikaboo

nanny cam. the only way

also a victim of theft
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also a victim of theft

My sister also had a cleaning lady from a local Jewish Cleaning Service, and she stole children’s jewelry that our mother had just sent for her grandchildren, as well as a ring (a necklace also went missing around that time, but we were never sure what happened to it)! Unfortunately, they never did anything to help us out! We figured there’s no way the cleaning lady would admit it, so we simply never called her again.

Our Cleaning Lady Stole
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Our Cleaning Lady Stole

Mine Did.Yours Did. His Did.
Mine Does, Yours Does. His Does.
Mine Will.Yours Will…. His Will.
It’s all H-s Will.
Isn’t it Pirkey Avot? Something about “The More Man servants,the more thievery?” 2:7
Benven.Tsfat

To #17
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To #17

Dont feel so bad for people who work under the table they get cash, plus free hospital care and who knows what else.
All new immigrant groups have gone through this stage in America-the question is who can climb the ladder while earning an HONEST living.
As to Jewish cleaning women, not sure who you have heard about it, but I havent seen any ads.
please post if you know of people.

Miriam
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Miriam

I have had so many workers over the years and am sure one stole from me. However, I have also WRONGLY accused two workers of stealing and later found the stuff. To this day I feel so sick about it. Don’t fool yourself into thinking only “goytes” steal! Come on. It’s a moral thing! You have moral Jews and immoral Jews. The same applies to non-jews. Be villigant. Have a safe for your jewellery in a hidden spot in your house. And, most importantly, for your children and posessions, install camerras, so if there ever is an issue, you can… Read more »

To all the people out there who is making stupid comments:
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To all the people out there who is making stupid comments:

There are 2 ways of looking at things:
1) I’m trusting in Hashem that He will protect me so i wont even bother to try to protect myself
2) Hashem is going to help me but i’m still going to try to keep myself safe.

This kind man showed us all a nice lesson. “Never trust your cleaning lady.”
It may not happen to all of us but it happens to most.
My mother always taught/teaches me:
“If you have nothing useful or nice to say DON’T say it.”
Obviously, your parents didn’t teach you that.

I fail to see the logic
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I fail to see the logic

if you wouldn’t hand over your diamond ring to your cleaning lady for safeguarding, why would you ever place your own children in their care?

CRAYZY
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CRAYZY

that is craizy

 sarah
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sarah

thats wy we dont have a cleaning lady!!!!!!

cleaning lady theif
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cleaning lady theif

THANKS FOR THE ARTICLE, BUT I THINK YOU DEALT WITH IT IN A MOST RIDICULOUS MANNER. I WOULD HAVE CALLED THE POLICE WHILE SHE WAS AT MY HOUSE. THEN YOU MIGHT HAVE GOTTEN EVERYTHING BACK.

anyone has any clues about it...
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anyone has any clues about it...

my cleaning lady showed up last week with a magen dovid charm. she told me in her broken english she had it for a long time. she recently stopped working on mondays by another local jewish family…. I hired her about a year ago but she used to work at other jewish families before that…

#33 AGREED!
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#33 AGREED!
one more tip
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one more tip

do not leave sets of keys hanging by the door, any delivery man, cleaning lady, mail man could take it very quickly.
Why would anyone leave their kids with a stranger which is exactly what a cleaning lady is, I would be terrified of a possible kidnapping, Chas V’Shalom.

been there
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been there

one of the first times my cleaning lady came, I had lost my bracelet. I asked her to look for it and she got really defensive. That made me suspect her. Then I was missing my wedding band. She was almost in tears. I didn’t know if I could trust her or not. I put on a web cam for awhile and recorded her. BH I have her for many years and leaving jewelry and money around and I truly believe that she is honest. But It was an uncomfortable beginning because she felt I didn’t trust her, and I… Read more »

understood
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understood
to #33
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to #33
pretty cool
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pretty cool
BLUFF
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BLUFF

probably a made up story to scare ppl

its not
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its not

and cleaning ladys can do a lot worse than steal

very nice
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very nice

its a good story because i always say it my cleaning lady that stol some of my valueables, but my mother says always its someone else, but i dont believe here.

happened to me
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happened to me

this recently happened to me a $2.00 bill that the ”toth fairy” gave my daughter along with a i pod touch, juicy cuture earings,one of my daughters cell phone wich she thaught she ”missedplaced” and an American girl doll that was in the playroom reminding you i put all this stuff away in my attic when i know im going to leave her alone she must of found out cuz it was all gone i had my daughter cry, yell and then she gived in and i made a police report

You are right
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You are right

I’m with you in your comment number 17 that’s the truth if we paid the ladies a little more, or at least raise their earnings, like they do in any regular job, they wouldn’t doing this.

Not all
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Not all

My mother is a cleaning lady once a week for a few houses and i have gone with her many times to help her out, and she does not steal so to everyone saying that all cleaning ladies steal just stop. My mom isn’t rich she struggles with money but that why she has two jobs not including her once a week cleaning but on her second job she also cleans and she cleans in a university and whenever she finds a phone or lost personal items she takes them and takes them to a front office or a lost… Read more »

I'm an honest cleaner
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I'm an honest cleaner

I clean houses for a living and trust me the best thing to do is act like you are always being video recorded. I treat people the same way I would want to be treated. I don’t want any of my stuff ever taken from me. Therefore I would not take anyone else’s stuff. One thing I don’t understand is some of you said you go through your cleaning ladies purse when she is not around. Why would she need a purse when she is cleaning a house? She should just have cleaning supplies and that’s it.

got me too!!
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got me too!!

wish I read this a year ago!

Must be watched
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Must be watched

We too have had valuables stolen by these “nice” people. They must be watched and not take out trash. We bought internal cameras and have video of one of them stealing.

House cleaner that breaks & damages
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House cleaner that breaks & damages

We had a lady in our neighborhood that did not steal, instead she damaged the home owners belongings. It was done in such a way that you would never believe it was her. It was absolutely shocking. I guess she hates her job? Too much jealously?

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