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    New Shidduch Blog on COLlive

    COLlive presents: Shidduchim SOS, a blog helping you through the shidduch process and matchmaking hurdles. Our new author is Mrs. Sarah Junik, wife and mother of 7 in Crown Heights who lectured around the world on Shidduchim. Full Story

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    wow!!!
    Guest
    wow!!!

    sounds good! what a great idea!!

    interested
    Guest
    interested

    Kol HaKavod. Good Luck

    great idea
    Guest
    great idea

    How will it work, will there be a link to it on the side of the homepage?

    wow collive
    Guest
    wow collive

    you guys never stop!!!

    A goise Eshar koach!!!
    Guest
    A goise Eshar koach!!!
    Is it all possible to consider
    Guest
    Is it all possible to consider

    Is it all possible to consider an idea like taking the Bochurim and girls list and developing a profile in a basic way …and parents can add their own bits… Just raw facts…
    where they schooling/yeshiva….were on shlichus…summers…height, age, shlichus/ working…..just as a starter for mother searching…
    information really can help…we are all spread out in our little corners, and our children dont even know prospect their own age…things arent like they used to be…BH we have multiplied…..

    Thanks to COL for stepping up !!
    Guest
    Thanks to COL for stepping up !!

    This is long awaited for…hopefully a central database may develop from this….that can help us all.
    You are doing an excellent job with your web site!!
    Continued hatzlacha! With helping out with the shidduch process IYH you will be be Zocheh to report the arrival of Moshiach..very soon.

    Mrs. Junik fan
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    Mrs. Junik fan

    Thank you. For us in Chicago, you are the wise relative many of us are lacking. May your efforts be rewarded with success for shidduchim for your family.

    look at #6
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    look at #6

    why is asking for the height diffrent than asking for the waist size?

    to 6
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    to 6

    reference letters are readily accessible at shadchaniim.
    i dont think they shud b posted for public cuz why shud the whole world b able to read them. from a shadchan its more confidential.

    Sim Shalom
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    Sim Shalom

    Excellent Framework for moving ahead.

    My question here (I do not know Mrs. Junik [Yunik] at all; nor her work) is as follows:

    If there is a shidduch problem (crisis?) that exists, why take someone who has been a major contributor to the current “system” to lead a way out?

    Is this yet another attempt at “change” in Lubavitch by doing “more of the same”.

    For those who sense that there is something missing (at least for them) in our general Lubavitcher community – will this be another “shattered dream” that further alienates?

    I am truly concerned at this persistent pattern in Lubavitch.

    Dealing with shadchanim can be a nightmare
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    Dealing with shadchanim can be a nightmare

    Dealing with shadchanim can be a nightmare..hello …am i alone out here……. .how about one central database that has these profiles and run by responsible people. They will have rules..it wont be accessible to any shmo…a shadchan and parent will have to prove that they are authentic…this can be a seriously run as a business/txedaka opportunity…. I as a parent feel the same as mrs Junik…the first shidduchim i made were work but nothing like what i am facing today……you get a 100 no’s…do they really know what I am offering…..and then i spent weeks researching the candidate….i would like… Read more »

    oh and bless you COL hope you have lots of nachas from this blog
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    oh and bless you COL hope you have lots of nachas from this blog

    sounds like a thing that could turn out to garuntee you personally most brachos for your life

    may u have lots of nachas from the blog

    Why don't you try Chabadmatch.com?
    Guest
    Why don't you try Chabadmatch.com?
    mother
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    mother

    I would like to make a suggestion. I think, in general, mothers should be the ones looking into the shidducim for their children,because women are good for the details. The women are better shoppers, and find better metzius and schoirah then the men do. But as far as shadchanim goes. It definitly has to be the men. The women get too personel and too emotional about it. Second of all, as soon as you assume the responsibility on yourself, I am a shadchan, it’s very serious, and you must be available. The men are available, and the women are not.… Read more »

    Segula for to find a Shidduch
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    Segula for to find a Shidduch

    If you are looking for yourself or helping a relative or friend, it’s a segula to do this for 40 consecutive days.
    Say…..Yihee Rutzon Milfanecha, Shetimtza Zeevug Ra-uy vehagon, bechal echad mebnei ubnos Yisroel,
    Ubefrat NAME BEN/BAS MOTHERS NAME
    These are the Kapitlach:

    32 38 70 71 72 121 124

    Give 18 cents to Tzedaka-daily

    to # 11
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    to # 11

    You write “My question here (I do not know Mrs. Junik [Yunik] at all; nor her work) is as follows:
    If there is a shidduch problem (crisis?) that exists, why take someone who has been a major contributor to the current “system” to lead a way out?
    Since you didn’t hear about Mrs. Junik that shows that she is a new voice and not part of the current “system”
    Please aquaint yourself with her work or wait until you see.
    some of her work before writing such a negative comment especially in the nine days..

    a chossid
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    a chossid

    Let us not forget – we are not alone in this world. Nobody is alone. we BH have a Rebbe, whether you go to the Ohel,write in to the Igrois Koidesh, talk to your Mashpia or all of the above. You are not alone. There are books and publications with answers and advice from The Rebbe on ALL matters of Shiduchim. we have just got to believe and do the right things, similarly as we did 18 years ago. its time to get ourselves out of the fog that has been created around us and realize that nothing has changed… Read more »

    Mother of Boys
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    Mother of Boys

    Mrs Junik was the keynote speaker at a meeting in Chicago for parents from around the world as well as shadchanim. She was excellent and right on target. Whether or not you agree with everything she says, at least she steps up to the plate and offers some advice. Remember that she has married off several children so she also has life experience. Remember that there are also people who have no clue what to do and need advice such as hers. If people want to make a difference in shidduchim, attend a networking session. Most communities now have them,… Read more »

    she taller than he
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    she taller than he

    #9 asks, “why is asking for the height diffrent than asking for the waist size?”

    So you think a couple would be comfortable if they met and discovered that she is 5’9” and he is 5’5”?

    And although I don’t think waist size or dress size should be asked, a simple, “What do they look like – thin? heavy?” is reasonable.

    And it would be useful to think of a person they know in common for comparison – he is built like so-and-so or she is thin like so-and-so.

    with all due respect
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    with all due respect

    I am sure, Mrs. Junik, you are a wonderful person and you have accomplished a lot throughout your life. I am sure you will be offer insight and tips to many of us. Yet, I can’t help but wonder, since it is the girls and guys stuck in this situation, would it not be productive to have an input from a guy and a girl who have been in the dating scene for a while and picked up a few things. Granted we are not as experienced, but we are dating now and we know what is it like first-hand.… Read more »

    what do you think?
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    what do you think?

    “WHAT EVERY GIRL AND BOY SHOULD KNOW ABOUT MEETING THEIR ZIVUG” AND “WHAT EVERY PARENT SHOULD KNOW, ABOUT PREPARING THEIR CHILD’S SHIDDUCH” (Written by a well known Shadchan) Come follow me on a journey that will hopefully inspire you, to think and feel a bit more confidently, clearly, and comfortably, when embarking on the ‘shidduch’ scene. Generations ago, the shidduch scene was totally different then it is today. Women looked for a talmid chochom, a good provider, a strong man. Men looked for a warm and nurturing woman, a real aishes chayil that would raise their kids with the warmth… Read more »

    #22
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    #22

    With all due respect, if you are such a well known great shadchan, why aren’t you putting your name on everything you write or provide your contact information so people can talk to you?

    website
    Guest
    website

    here a nice webstie for date locations:

    http://www.shidduchdateguide.com

    enjoy

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