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Matchmaker, Matchmaker…

Crown Heights resident Rochel Raskin and Shadchan Mrs. Chana Sharfstein explain the Shidduch process in the Chabad community in a video by the Forward. Video

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malka
February 16, 2014 6:41 pm

there are about 7 Shidduch programs in our community, they need to unite under an umbrella organization as soon as possible.
There is too much unnecessary duplication

A participant
February 16, 2014 2:39 pm

The video you just viewed was produced by the Foreward newspaper to acquaint their readership with shidduch dating. My interview was nearly one hour long and only a very brief part was presented. The most important message that unfortunately was not included was the discussion I had with The Rebbe on this subject. His words are as meaningful today as when I was in the midst of shidduchim.. He explained that real love is not that which is portrayed in novels- for that he said is fiction, not real life. Real love begins with just a tiny spark, a feeling… Read more »

to 14
February 16, 2014 8:49 am

she said 8 to 15 days, I heard it clearly.
It wasn’t a bad piece but I would think the Forward would have had a jewish person conducting the interview, it seemed like she was being interviewed by foreign press.

Also, The shadchan says people have these shopping lists and says intelligence, as if that is too much to ask for.

to number 5
February 16, 2014 1:44 am

Listen again she said clearly 8 to 15 dates

nice video
February 16, 2014 1:43 am

I didn’t feel like it addressed the issue with 100% accuracy, like going out so many times isn’t the norm necessarily or that we all care about height and have a shopping list.this definitely want my experience at least.if they really wanted to do it justice it needs to be longer and more thoroughly explained. I did enjoy Rochelle’s comment about potential vs love though.

Well said, but...
February 16, 2014 12:35 am

Well said, but at the end, when Rochel Roskin said that you have to rely on your parents and your own decisions… Firstly, we still have a Rebbe to turn to. There are those who go to the Ohel to ask for a Bracha form the Rebbe, to ask for direction/sign from Hashem, whether they should go ahead with a certain proposal or not, there are those who write into the Igros Kodesh to ask for direction…etc., so it’s not only relying on your parents, and you (young adult) also have to use your Saichel (your wisdom, understanding, basically- use… Read more »

height and weight?
February 15, 2014 10:07 pm

i thought it was really weird that mrs sharfstein said people look for a certain height and weight. yes these are important, but what about personality?
why was there no mention of people looking to find a personality which matches them?

Did not like how they ended the piece.
February 15, 2014 9:53 pm

“People don’t always make good decisions…”
I think the editors could have picked a better way to end this good piece!

Kudos
February 15, 2014 9:30 pm

Great job Rochele! You spoke really well and your family is beautiful ka”h!

Kiddush Hashem
February 15, 2014 9:30 pm

Nice! I was really impressed by how un-pretentious Rochele looked; instead of looking overdone and overly glamorous, she looked pretty, wholesome and down to earth. In the “real world,” that is so much more respected. She looks and sounds intelligent!

“It wasn’t love at first sight. It was potential at first sight.”
Great line.

I didn't get that she was married
February 15, 2014 3:15 pm

till she said so. I thought they were interviewing a shadchan and a single girl.

We love you, Rochele!
February 14, 2014 3:02 pm

You are amazing and we are so proud of you!!

to #4
February 14, 2014 3:01 pm

you didn’t hear correctly. she said 8-5 days, not times…

Mrs. Chana Sharfstein explain the Shidduch process
February 14, 2014 2:23 pm

Sorry but I think you are mistaking. Going out 8 – 15 times, is not to smart. That is not the average. Speak to other Shadchonim 3-10 is more like it. If it is more most times it dose not happen and feelings are hurt Terribly. After three dates means You are pretty serious and have some questions. After 6-7 times it might be a good Idea to take a little brake. After 8 – 10 if you cant make up your mind the chances are that after 15 you will still have questions/Issues….. I am sure there is always… Read more »

CHEESY
February 14, 2014 1:24 pm

VERY INTERESTING

Rochele!
February 14, 2014 12:34 pm

Ur shaitel really suits u!
nicely done!
Ur fave cuz in MTL.

Rochelle
February 14, 2014 11:32 am

Best therapist ever!!

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