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It’s Time to Stop Judging Each Other’s Shlichus

From the COLlive inbox: A Shliach in a small-town community writes about the misunderstanding of fellow Chassidim and even colleagues about this mission and the comments that he often hears that make it sound like what he does isn't worthwhile. Full Story

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June 15, 2023 11:41 pm

First: this is a issue even before gimmel tammuz. Competition amongst shluchim. Second: lubavitchers have an issue not to raise chassidim to reach their potential and heights. They are VERY good at “you made it, wow, I cant believe it” in a sarcastic tone. Stop putting people down – its revolting and obvious! 3rd: the fact that you expressed it, really kudos to you because you would be even called “not chabad” for raising the TRUTH! Hatzlacha on your shlichus! As long as you have YOUR hiskashrus with our Rebbe and follow our Rebbes instructions that’s ALL that matters. At… Read more »

Not familiar but if so:
Reply to  Thanks for speaking out...
June 16, 2023 9:15 am

Right. I’m not familiar with this trend among Shluchim that is described in the article. I’m not on shlichus. But in any context, looking externally, comparing, and “should”ing makes isn’t consistent with Chassidus, Yiddishkeit, and regular good manners and strategies for productivity and success that completely secular business professionals employ. I guess it’s the holy yetzer hara that’s promoting the not holy or healthy thoughts and comments. In terms of “should” each shliach bezH has his own mashpia (like many business professionals have mentors and are mentors) for clarity regarding what the Rebbe’s directives are as they apply to the… Read more »

It's so sad
Reply to  Not familiar but if so:
June 16, 2023 5:16 pm

Because it used to be an insult to be called a chitzon but it almost looks like now that the chitzoniyus is what everyone looks at 😥

Unpopular opinion
Reply to  Thanks for speaking out...
June 16, 2023 2:09 pm

Numbers might be critical for shlichis actually. The Rebbe made it clear that the purpose of shlichis is to reach every jew, so if you can reach out to more than you currently are, by being “more ambitious” or “moving,” then that might be the right thing

Actually incorrect by how you're seeing it
Reply to  Unpopular opinion
June 16, 2023 3:27 pm

The Rebbe never said to count on numbers and without numbers leave or go elsewhere for numbers. The Rebbe said to go on shlichus, make that place your shlichus and numbers will be sent. It’s a mindset. The first shluchim never went for numbers or money, they went because the Rebbe sent them – period! There was no “working your way around it”…. mentality. And no the Torah didn’t change and so is the Rebbes instructions doesn’t change.

B.
June 15, 2023 11:56 pm

The bigger your kehilla, the bigger success you are in lubavitch and by the Rebbe.

Crown heightser
Reply to  B.
June 16, 2023 12:14 am

You are definitely not on shlichus if you could think of such a absurd thing the bigger your misiras nefesh with no feeling succes and no name recognition the more nachas ruach you our causing the mishaleach olom hofuch roisi

True
Reply to  B.
June 16, 2023 1:38 am

I agree

Sarcasm is never appropriate
Reply to  B.
June 16, 2023 3:05 am

I hope this is meant only sarcastically.

Mendy
Reply to  B.
June 16, 2023 9:46 am

That’s actually NOt true!! The Rebbe would cringe if the Rebbe heard such a stupid thing! The Rebbe was every yid as an individual!

To be honest
Reply to  Mendy
June 16, 2023 5:23 pm

I can’t imagine the Rebbe ever cringing. I think the Rebbe would take the time to show this person the truth in the most loving way

We should also realize
June 15, 2023 11:57 pm

That those who choose to stay in Crown Heights are just as important and doing a shlichus too. We’re not just here for when you need a bed during the Kinnus.

anonymous
Reply to  We should also realize
June 16, 2023 12:17 am

actually the rebbe said that everyone should move out on shlichus and that there should only be a minyan of people in ch.
just btw

not exact
Reply to  anonymous
June 16, 2023 9:59 am

the rebbe did not say that, he said that he wouldnt mind if only a minyan remained

Teachers
Reply to  anonymous
June 16, 2023 10:55 am

And who would teach in Bais Rivkah and all the crown heights yeshivos where you send your kids? How about the dozens of Hebrew schools within driving distance to Crown Heights that drive in teachers every week? We need the preschool Morahs to lovingly teach our children the Alef Bais, all the way up to high school and Yeshiva, to answer our teens’ questions and inspire them to dedicate their Rebbe? How about various Neshei programs, beautiful farbrengens, and the other things cultivated to inspire everyone, where shluchim tune in to? Chosson Kalla organizations… Crown Heights is a beautiful loving… Read more »

To be honest
Reply to  anonymous
June 16, 2023 5:31 pm

I think we all missed the point again. We should never judge, and if it’s easier, even think about, why someone may be living in CH. It’s just their life. And if you do want to think about it, I’d say think that it must be they’re doing their best, the same way a shliach, and every other chossid out there, does his best. Why wouldn’t they? And why are you better than them? Just pls don’t judge. This is besides not knowing what’s going on in others lives and if we had their challenges we may have been very… Read more »

source pls
Reply to  anonymous
June 18, 2023 2:13 am

farberengen, sefer etc

When?
Reply to  anonymous
June 18, 2023 2:49 pm

in the early years the Rebbe very much wanted everyone to move out and only a minyan of zkenim.

Later the rebbe said every one should go on shlichus but I the leaving was mentioned.
There was too much local shlichus to do.

flowers store
Reply to  anonymous
December 14, 2023 11:26 pm

someone asked the rebbe where he should go on shlichus and the rebbe said he shuld open a flower store on kingston and thats what he does till this day

Not quite
Reply to  We should also realize
June 16, 2023 12:51 am

While every human being has its place and mission and purpose, every yid and every chossid has a special mission and destiny. To compare yourself to someone who has dedicated their lives to the rebbe work spreading yiddishkeit, not to mention the incredible sacrifices that going to small communities entail. I am sorry but you really don’t come close in THAT regard. You are a dear yid and chossid but you are have not dedicated your life to the rebbe work and shlichus. Can’t have it both ways

You have no clue
Reply to  Not quite
June 16, 2023 7:01 am

You really do not know the circumstances of a person’s life, the decisions they had to make or why they ended up in one position rather than another. Sometimes we have to do a lot of inner avodah to accept whatever shlichus is meant for US. Your words are like telling the toe not to waste their life down there being a toe and instead migrate up to the brain.

Ridiculous
Reply to  Not quite
June 16, 2023 7:54 am

The Rebbe said clearly that shluchim should only go to communities that are able to support them. He did not want a shliach in eck-velt draining established Chabad communities of resources. Every Chosid has their own tafkid and we can see clearly what happened to Chabad when the shlichus or bust mentality infiltrated Lubavitch in the late ’80s or so. The young are suffering the most because Shlichus turned into a talent drain, the opposite of the Rebbe’s intentions. Just look at the population under the age of 24, these are the Chayolei Beis Dovid. If they don’t look to… Read more »

Shlichus in Crown Heights
Reply to  We should also realize
June 16, 2023 3:25 am

And we have so much Shlichus to do here in Crown Heights.

right
Reply to  Shlichus in Crown Heights
June 16, 2023 5:56 am

There takeh is a lot of shlichus in crown heights
But nobody is doing it

Out-of-towner, not shliach
Reply to  We should also realize
June 16, 2023 9:09 am

Maybe your shlichus is to give the shluchim a bed during Kinus.

Short Term Rental
Reply to  Out-of-towner, not shliach
June 16, 2023 11:21 am

The shlichus of in-towners is to charge exorbitant fees for short term rentals to people visiting crown heights.

So well said!
June 16, 2023 12:08 am

Every Yid is a Shliach and only Hashem knows who’s efforts carries the most results! Keep up your good work!

It all starts from the higher ups.
June 16, 2023 12:17 am

The issue starts with the higher ups. Who are the speakers at the Kinnus? Who gets the recognition? Who get’s the name and prestige? It’s a domino affect.

Chinuch!
June 16, 2023 12:20 am

I think that the friend was saying that you’ll have an even greater impact in all those stuff that you mention, if you go teach.

Judging Everyone
June 16, 2023 12:32 am

At the end of the day everyone is being judged for whatever silly reasons

BTs get judged for being BT
Working men get judged for being working men
and now small town shluchim get judged for that

So and and so forth

Basically if you aren’t the cookie cutter top of the top you get judged for whatever reason. Ignore the haters and do what you do as best as you can.

This is so true
June 16, 2023 12:32 am

This idea isn’t related only for Shluchim befnei azmoy but Chassidim who are not living on Shluchos but are still working and trying to do what the Rebbe wants! Living in Crown Heights, East Flatbush, Kingston PA, Montreal, Toronto or anywhere else. We are all trying to live the best we can to give the Rebbe Nachas. Just because we live in frum communities and have a job doesn’t mean we are farmers or less then! We are all Chassidim with one Rebbe! Let’s remember that when it comes to treating each other frum Lubavitchers! Every Yid should be treated… Read more »

Once
Reply to  This is so true
June 16, 2023 5:41 pm

It used to be that way. All chassidim had a job or business. The Rebbe introduced an incredible revolutionary idea of shlichus but never said that it should make you look down on regular people. It’s only an plus, and if you could do it, that’s amazing. And at the end of the day, your brother is your brother and your sister is your sister, indifferent of what they do, and as chassidim, we are truly one family.

Joe
Reply to  Once
June 18, 2023 1:56 pm

Look down on “regular people“ that’s an odd reference. Since when are mekusharim of the Nosi regular?

In the Rebbe’s army each person is indispensable! The Rebbe demanded scientists-chassidim of his- to stay in place and be dugma chayas in their places of work. A prominent scientist or doctor or even tractor driver could do as much for hafotza as any head shaliach. Look at some of our gvirim, some of whom have bankrolled dozens of mosdos..SO the question of who is more on track or even indispensable is silly.

We simply can’t play the role of G-d!

A Small Town Shliach Whose Family Fell Apart
June 16, 2023 12:37 am

I moved to a small town and we had ‘all the things’: We were the only thing in town For many people, we provided their first taste of everything: Shabbos, Tefilllin, Kashrus, etc Many of the people we met didn’t have money to give or chose not to give because they were never raised to give We had many UNIQUE and INSPIRING miracle stories, some of which became national news We searched for and served Jews with mesiurus nefesh In the end, as a result of stress, pressue, frustration, etc. our marriage was negatively effected I am going to say… Read more »

Heart Breaking
Reply to  A Small Town Shliach Whose Family Fell Apart
June 16, 2023 8:03 am

It’s not for naught, the Rebbe demanded that Shluchim only go to communities that can support them. The Rebbe has an Elokus vision, leave it to the rest of us to totally muck it up.

Not a muck...
Reply to  Heart Breaking
June 18, 2023 4:43 am

When the Rebbe sent us out, the Rebbe knew what was going to happen and the Rebbe gave us ‘the healing’ before ‘the malady’

G-d Willing, we will recover and be a family united

Oy, so sad
Reply to  A Small Town Shliach Whose Family Fell Apart
June 16, 2023 8:28 am

This really breaks my heart. I think that ppl ought to think before they speak “is what I’m going to say put a smile on someone’s face” … words of encouragement and support is needed by every human being. It’s not for anyone to “judge” another and dispose opinions on how another “should” live. Each person should worry about their “ruchnius” and their fellows “gashmius” to ensure to lift up each other and not ch”v cause friction. This goes in all areas – especially when it comes to bring careful not to negatively impact someones Shalom Bayis because the “opinionator”… Read more »

So well put!
June 16, 2023 12:38 am

I so agree!
Thanks for inspiring the generations to come!
It is true and everyone should see this and take it to heart!
It’s so important!

Merkos Shlichus
June 16, 2023 12:42 am

It’s a beautiful article, and I really understand how upsetting it is to hear these comments.
But weren’t these small town communities supposed to be serviced by Merkos Shlichus or regional Shluchim? I heard recently that the Rebbe had conditions about where Shluchim could go.

But now..
Reply to  Merkos Shlichus
June 16, 2023 10:59 am

And then Lubavitch grew and every bochur and seminary girl want to go on shlichus…
The big towns with many are taken, lol

Serviced by Merkos Shlichus?!
Reply to  Merkos Shlichus
June 16, 2023 4:08 pm

Merkos Shlichus should be viewed as a temporary fix for a severe problem. Ultimately, people do much better in getting closer to Yiddishkite with a permanent, stable presence.

Now replace "small town" with "Crown Heights"
June 16, 2023 12:55 am

LOL! I totally thought this was gonna exhort all the CHs to be shluchim! And to recognize that they too are shluchim.

Every person is a shliach no matter where they are. They were sent to that specific place and time to accomplish something!!!!

Schools
Reply to  Now replace "small town" with "Crown Heights"
June 16, 2023 11:01 am

I wish this was stressed more in kids schools and camps. My children often are hurt by the fact that their shluchim friends get all the attention… it’s not the kids fault or specialty being on Shlichus
It’s just the family they were born into
Many Anash kids have negative associations with shlichus because of this unfortunately…

Human Nature
June 16, 2023 1:05 am

This is not just about shlichus, its about our own life in general. The bigger we are financially the more respected we are, regardless if we admit it or not thats human nature and thats how people are judged.

I don't think it's just shlichus
June 16, 2023 2:53 am

I left yeshiva early largely because of this. I think many people are quite emotionally unhealthy and this is the cause of the judging. Not too get to deep in my whole theory but I believe it’s because it makes you feel good when I know what’s right and the other person doesn’t, I’m doing what’s right in life and he or she isn’t. Like the famous story of the Rebbe Rashab and the Raza but yet so sadly, the complete polar opposite. I think the source is that people aren’t in tune with their nefesh habahamis and instead, reject… Read more »

This Chosid is an Oived
Reply to  I don't think it's just shlichus
June 16, 2023 8:21 am

Thank you so much. We need more chasidim like you. We need more leaders like you.

So many families are hurting because of what you describe in your paragraph about (unintentional) control. I was one of those parents and it was a very difficult journey till I understood what I was doing to my family. It took the experience of a child opting out for me to understand what you are describing. I’ll only add, that often it’s not just the parents but the overall, unhealthy, environment that produces the toxicity.

Thank you so much
Reply to  This Chosid is an Oived
June 16, 2023 4:52 pm

It really means a lot
And it’s amazing to know of a parent to have the courage to change at that stage in life, obviously not just being a teenager on your own but already established with values and a family etc. Thank you for being an inspiration. I hope my parents will one day do the same so I have a place to call home
I’d definitely agree with you and just say I think it’s mainly at home. And the outside affects also. Not to say you didn’t mean that, but just voicing my personal thoughts

You belong back in yeshiva!
Reply to  I don't think it's just shlichus
June 16, 2023 11:15 am

As the mashpia to our children who understands people and can guide them to understand themselves in this world and be better chassidim.

Thanks so much
Reply to  You belong back in yeshiva!
June 16, 2023 5:02 pm

I honestly absolutely love the idea of yeshiva but the judgemental attitude, lack of privacy (more mentally but also physically in most places) and a few other things, I don’t know if I could go back. Maybe one day as an older bochur someplace I actually once went back to the zal, and I walked in and felt like I was in an interrogation. They don’t mean to do that, but stripping away someone’s identity, ignoring them as a human and just throwing questions at you, where you are, what you’re doing etc etc, is really terrible. No one should… Read more »

Parent through love
Reply to  I don't think it's just shlichus
June 16, 2023 12:22 pm

When a child feels unconditionally loved they have healthy self esteem. They don’t feel that they are being measured and judged to live to someone else’s standards.
Parents: your children are not mini versions of yourself. Love them, inspire them, be non judgemental and show them by role modeling what it means to accept when things don’t go smoothly. Your children absorb what they see at home. Chazak!

A Parent
Reply to  Parent through love
June 16, 2023 3:00 pm

It’s very hard to raise children in isolation. “it takes a village” and much of the problem is in the environment. If Beis Rivka staff and student body doesn’t reflect your values, unconditional love will only take your child so far.

Read all the comments to this post about judging. Your children are impacted by this maybe even more than the adults.

Don't know Beis Rivka but
Reply to  A Parent
June 16, 2023 4:40 pm

I think if you truly show absolute unconditional love, no matter if the child is or is not on your expected standards and possibly even going downhill, they will always have an amazing supportive foundation and what to fall back on to truly find themselves. And when that happens, “according to the pain is the reward.” They will truly show they are an amazing incredible person

Also
Reply to  A Parent
June 16, 2023 5:10 pm

I think the raising in isolation is a big cause of the issue. We feel like because of all the outside negative things, we have to make sure our kid is doing the right thing, acting the right way etc, especially when you see them doing certain things. But that becomes the issue of control. We just have to be the best inspiration we could be and give them all the support in the world And we have to deal with it because we live a lot more spread out nowadays, shluchim especially but those who aren’t, it’s no longer… Read more »

Love this
Reply to  Parent through love
June 16, 2023 5:14 pm

Thanks for sharing!

Here's a link
Reply to  I don't think it's just shlichus
June 16, 2023 12:28 pm

For the story of the Rebbe Rashab and Raza. It was one of R Mendel Futerfases favorite stories
https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/132416/jewish/Superiority.htm

Zalmens friend
June 16, 2023 3:07 am

Wow, it’s incredible how much power we have over our own judgment. No need to worry about what others think when you can be your own judge. But hey, let’s not settle for just one smile a week. It’s time to expand our horizons and reach out to more people. Gone are the days when we were limited by our geographical location, thanks to the internet and social media. The potential is limitless, so let’s break free from our self-imposed restrictions. Stop giving yourself a pat on the back for the little things you do. It’s time to level up… Read more »

It's not about the numbers
Reply to  Zalmens friend
June 16, 2023 7:58 am

If you have that many ppl at your shabbos meal youre probably in a bigger city. The whole point is it’s not about numbers!

47?
Reply to  Zalmens friend
June 16, 2023 1:11 pm

that’s all? if you have 470 Jews that’s only 10%. over 22? is one pregnant?

Your exactly the issue he discusses.

large potatoes often come by the number and pound (not yidden)

from another small town Sheliach that still has a challenge pulling a minyan together.

Atem teluktu….Echod.

Is it
Reply to  47?
June 16, 2023 5:57 pm

I don’t think he’s being judgemental, just pushing to strive for more. He also added that he’s a friend so he probably knows who he is..
And who’s to say this shliach isn’t pushing every day to get more ppl to come? Let’s hope he is! And let’s not judge : )

If I can add
Reply to  Zalmens friend
June 16, 2023 5:54 pm

Not just leveling up in ruchniyus, but also opening up our neha”b, emotionally and psychologically

מילה בסלע
June 16, 2023 3:30 am

🎯

Right on
June 16, 2023 4:49 am

To add: The Rebbe taught that the farther you move out, the closer you are to him.
Moving far out to an isolated place is much different than moving into an established community.

i thought this attitude was a thing of the past
June 16, 2023 6:59 am

i completely agree with the author in his/her essay. Actually, i had thought that we as a community have matured from the early days of comparing or bragging about numbers. Uchiyaduah the story about the bus driver who brought in more money by turning onto a main street, and was fired. Your neshama was sent down for 70-80 years to do a favor for the individual in YOUR town. Keep up the great work, and keep your chin up! Hatzlacha!

Excellent
June 16, 2023 7:09 am

But this really applies to everything and everyone in life.
People who judge, do so to make themselves feel better.
Pay no attention … it can really make you lose your focus

Kinus speaker
June 16, 2023 7:59 am

It would actually be a powerful idea to have a Shliach like this speak at the kinus. To celebrate quality over quantity.

Mindset
June 16, 2023 8:29 am

It’s all a mindset. If you feel that you are accomplishing the mission you were created for then that’s all it should matter for you and consequently the level of satisfaction you’ll get from it will be unbreakable.
Regardless of “numbers”, position and status. It’s a feeling of “Etzem sheata tofes bimiktzaso ata tofes bikulo”
This applies to the entire spectrum of society.
As a janitor in NASA expressed once to John F Kennedy “I am helping men to land on the moon”.

Mindset
June 16, 2023 8:39 am

It’s all a mindset.
If you genuinely feel that you are accomplishing the mission you were created for then nothing of that should ever bother you, and the level of satisfaction you will feel will be unbreakable.

Does not matter numbers, position or status.
It’s a feeling of ‏עצם שאתה תופס במקצתו אתה תופס בכולו
This applies to the entire spectrum of society as a janitor in NASA expressed wants to John F. Kennedy. I am helping man to land on the moon.

Good luck to you
June 16, 2023 8:53 am

I’m so sorry that you feel this way
Stop looking to other people to validate you and your Shlichus. If you believe thy it’s the right place for you and that you’re doing good things, then kudos to you. Why are you letting comments of naysayers get to you!? You’re in the Rebbes army – who else do you need?

As a Ps – it’s almost always the small town Shluchim that get all the glory and attention at the kinnusim – they are the roll call people and the speakers… even though they’re probably the minority…

CH Family
June 16, 2023 9:08 am

The speaker at the Khof beis Shvat kinus gave a hearty Kol hakavod to the shluchos who plan an event… and only a few people show up, and who host a college student for weeks, months … and then never hear back from that student. I so appreciated her words. The shlichus is to show up, make the effort, give it your all. That’s it. Not doing the bookkeeping of “how many souls can I – yes, Big Important Me! – take pride in affecting.”

Menachem.
Reply to  CH Family
June 16, 2023 12:22 pm

There was a story printed about a Shlucha who had a major event happening around the new Mikvah – Tahras Hamishpocha. They planned the even to attract a large crowd. Speakers snacks etc. The day comes and no one except 1 woman shows up. You could imagine their absolute disappointment. They were devastated to say the least. Afterwards they wrote to the Rebbe. Sharing their horror, all the monies they spent went to waste etc….. only 1 Women !!! The response the Rebbe sent was including other things !! משה רבינו האט געהאט איין מאמע Meaning (in my words) to… Read more »

The real issue
June 16, 2023 9:15 am

Is that we treat other people like trash and judge each other instead of working on ourselves. I’m not sure why there aren’t more lectures and events that center around human decency and middos, because clearly this is something that’s lacking within our education systems.

I think you should find different friends
June 16, 2023 9:57 am

If this is what people you hang out with are telling you, just forget them. Find other friends. You’re doing amazing work. Why do you need this sad people in your life. Go get ‘em

Igros Kodesh gimmel page 340
June 16, 2023 10:27 am

Dear Shliach, Check it out – I think you will get a lot of Hanaah

A small town Shliach
June 16, 2023 10:32 am

As a small town Shliach for the past 20 years, I can tell you one thing. No one cares about you so don’t listen to anyone’s criticism. Schools and camps will reject your kids if you can’t pay in full regardless if you are a Shliach or not. Get ready to pay 100k/year just for Chinuch. No main office will give you a significant amount to feed your family and cover your day to day needs. You are on your own and you do what you need to do in order to create a cash flow regardless of what anyone… Read more »

anonymous
June 16, 2023 10:51 am

in the end what matters is how Hashem judges us and what He thinks of us

to my brother, Reb Zalman
June 16, 2023 10:57 am

Firstly, recently at a farbrengen, I heard a parable that Rabbi Shalom M. Paltiel said in the name of his shver, that once there was a bus driver who serviced a bus route at the edge of town, who thought that his route was insignificant so he decided that he will take his bus down the main street of town instead of his allotted route. In a very short while the whole town was in an upheaval as his neglected edge-of-town route impacted the entire town…. – Your Shlichus is vital and it impacts everyone, even if it doesn’t seem… Read more »

Menachem.
June 16, 2023 12:01 pm

I’m not in any way an expert or someone big to have any major knowledge in this subject matter.
As a simple follower doing what’s called on within our abilities. I read the article and some of the comments here. Some seem political some offensive some sympathetic some rude. I really don’t care for many.

However, I can think of 2 very famous and powerful responses from the Rebbe to Shluchim/Shluchos which I care to share here on this subject….

1) to Rebbetzin Garelik in Milan Italy
2) to Rebbetzin Groner in Australia.

Hatzlacha on your missions. Besuros Tovos

Facts don't care about your feelings
June 16, 2023 1:33 pm

Aren’t we supposed to be the party that says things the way we see it and mocks the snowflakes that get offended from every comment that doesn’t align with their truth?
If asking “How many families do you have in your Chabad House,” is beyond the pale, then what is allowed?

Come on, seriously?
Reply to  Facts don't care about your feelings
June 16, 2023 6:07 pm

From someone who does myself, I’d highly recommend to start therapy. For in general. It will only improve your life

Words could create or H"V destroy
June 16, 2023 2:53 pm

One thing is very clear Unfortunate power/fame brings arrogance Impossible to run away from it and we all heard enough from all the mavins It is very easy to be a tzadik in shul It is very easy to look down on others when everything is going (extra) well It is very easy to judge someone and complete miss it’s (real) target, you could never see the entire picture necessary to see/understand the truth Wake up yidden the day is very near when the whole truth will be publicly known This entire chat is toxic and unproductive and completely not… Read more »

What
Reply to  Words could create or H"V destroy
June 16, 2023 6:04 pm

I don’t think you brought out your point very clearly

Here’s another perspective….
June 16, 2023 5:27 pm

We are “the successful shluchim”, with the big crowds, beautiful building, etc. When a shliach comes to visit, often they make biting remarks about our “success”. It’s uncomfortable and demeaning. So everyone in life, shluchim or not, family or not, basically all people of the human race, have people who look down on them, whether it’s because of their perceived “success” or because of their perceived “failings”. This is a reflection on the person making the disparaging comments. Not on the person it’s directed at. It’s Important to remember – Hurt people hurt people. Keep living your best life and… Read more »

Berel
June 18, 2023 8:37 am

Before someone comments on this, if your not on shlichus its nice for you to give your input but do you share the experience that the author has or are you just sympathizing and fantasizing it happening to you?

Sounds like your running away from your problems
June 18, 2023 4:32 pm

Burying your head under the cloak of messiras nefesh not ready to recognize that you are hurting yourself and your family It could be that you think your kids will respect you for the mesiras nefesh that you took on but in the meantime you flopped on your most basic responsibilities A miracle here and there is not an indication that you are on the right track or doing the right thing Tshuva broiv yoetz and asai lecha rav Its ok to find another mokom hashlichus there are plenty of stories where the rebbe told shluchim to change their mokom… Read more »

Amazing.
July 21, 2023 1:21 am

You can inspire the more recent post by a women burned out in her shluchus. This is the attitude of the Rebbe. One person in one place making a difference for one person. This is exactly what shluchus is and is meant to be. Bringing yiddishkeit to one person wherever you are sent. Much continued Hatzlacha in your shluchus!

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