By Shayna Eliav, MS, RN for COLlive.com
As most of you already know, religious exemptions for vaccination can no longer be accepted in NYS schools. For quite a few families this has drastic implications.
School will begin on Tuesday, but some children whose parents registered them in hopes that the law would be overturned are now at a loss of what to do. Should they homeschool? Should they enroll them in “unofficial” schools which are not enforcing the law? Online programs are popping up—programs which, al kol panim, have no experience providing online education which, from experience, I can attest requires great organization, forethought, and resources in order to be successful. Children are at risk for being in educational environments which are not suited to their needs, because their parents believe that the risks of potential vaccine injury outweigh the risks of taking them out of school. I disagree. Please allow me to share why.
Going back a decade or so, I had a reputation for encouraging women to question everything— especially related to how they approached their pregnancies, childbirth, and caring for their babies—but really it extended to their approach to healthcare in general. I wanted them to think for themselves and make their own choices, to be empowered. While I didn’t overtly include anti-vaccine information in any of my classes or talks, I personally didn’t vaccinate, and was open about that fact to whoever asked me my opinion. I now realize that I likely have a share in the increase of families who chose not to vaccinate. While I still believe that people should make choices they feel are right for their families, the reality is that the choice to vaccinate has real ramifications. For one, it means that kids are vulnerable to disease exposure, and secondly, in the current legal situation, it means that some kids’ lives will be very different than they would otherwise because their parents choose to put their choice not to vaccinate above their children’s educational best interests. I want to talk to you as one parent (and now, a nurse and a midwife) to another parent—to think very carefully about choice. I will share how my thoughts on the topic shifted, and maybe that will help you see things a bit differently, or feel peace of mind.
About 5 years ago I had a child in a startup school which, to put it simply, wasn’t right for him or our family. We were desperate to get him into the school that his older brothers had attended. It wasn’t perfect, but it was stable and we knew what we would be working with. I called and begged for 2 years to try to get a spot for him. Finally, my persistence paid off, but there was just one hitch—the honhola knew that our older kids weren’t vaccinated, and they had changed their vaccination policy for incoming children. Our son had a spot, but only if I gave my word to vaccinate him. I knew at that point what I had to do. I couldn’t in good conscience allow his self-image to be damaged and his educational needs neglected because I had fears about vaccine risks, mostly based on someone I trusted telling me that vaccines might be associated with autism, as well as scary YouTube videos showing children who appeared to have been damaged or killed by vaccines. Whether our son would have some side-effect from a vaccine was a “maybe.” But it wasn’t even a question that staying in the wrong environment was going to have definite side effects.
At this same time, I was in nursing school. I started to develop an appreciation for medicine as the complex art and science that it is. I took care of patients with Hepatitis B, for example, and realized that, indeed, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Not everything could be “fixed.” Then I continued onto midwifery school. I learned how to read research, and draw comparisons. I realized that virtually nothing is black and white, that there truly are risks and benefits to basically everything— including doing nothing. In my anti-vaccine years, I saw a zero risk of my child getting any of these illnesses compared to some risk—I didn’t know how great or small—of my child having an adverse reaction. That was an incorrect view. As we have seen recently, these illnesses can and do reappear from time to time. All it takes is reduced herd immunity and a carrier who transmits the disease. I know. My 18 year-old son got the Measles while in yeshiva in Israel this past year.
You see, I had begun vaccinating my younger children for school, but I wasn’t really thinking about the older ones. Yes, I knew about the outbreak, and yes, I told him to go get vaccinated—which he did—but it was too late. The MMR takes about 2 weeks to create antibodies, and the disease take about 10-12 days to incubate, so when he broke out a week after the shot, it was clear that he had been exposed before he ever got the shot, and we had unfortunately missed the boat.
Fortunately, B”H, my son recovered well. But I cannot adequately convey my concern as he called me that Friday morning, languishing in his dorm for the past 48 hours, not able to keep anything down, terribly weak, with a bad cough and a high fever. It was the winter and there were just 5 hours left to Shabbos in Eretz Yisrael. It was the middle of the night for me, and it took me a bit to get with the program, but I “came to” enough to have him check his throat for Koplik’s spots. When he confirmed that he had them, I realized that it was a classic case of Measles. I also realized that he couldn’t stay in yeshiva—not for his sake, nor for others’. Nor could I reach the honhola member who would help me understand what his medical insurance “benefits” we had so cheaply purchased offer him.
But Hashem had our back. My amazingly dedicated sister in law who lives an hour from yeshiva said that he was certainly welcome in their home. Like most people of their generation, my brother and sister in law had received only one dose of measles vaccine which conferred about a 93% rate of immunity. At least no kids were in the home thank G-d. But my brother in law still had to go to work. What if he was one of the unlucky 7% who still got sick (like those in Michigan), and then passed it onto co-workers, the consequences could be devastating if they were also from that 7% minority and happened to have pregnant wives, who are at high risk for preterm labor from measles infection (as happened here in New York), or young, unimmunized babies who are most vulnerable to complications of the disease? Or what if the unassuming taxi driver who took my son from Tsfas to Haifa just trying to make a living became ill (of course I didn’t allow him to take a bus in that condition)? And my sister in law who suffers from diabetes and asthma— pretty high risk for developing pneumonia, G-d forbid. I was staring the potential consequences of my right to make a healthcare choice for my son in the face. It didn’t look good, and it didn’t feel ethical or moral or empowering. I felt stupid and selfish, to be honest. BH, as far as we know, no one else got sick because of our son. Why? One very simple reason: those other people were vaccinated, and were part of the majority for whom it had been effective.
But it doesn’t completely end there. For the next 10 years I will be worrying about the possibility of SSPE (a rare, but real, delayed consequence of measles). You probably think I’m overreacting. Look it up. It’s bad. Hashem yerachem.
I began to realize how close we all are to illness— even if it seems to be far away. It’s a perception that we have, based on subjective information. You don’t know anyone with Hep B or polio so you don’t worry about it. But what if your son decides to go on shlichus in Haiti or somewhere in Central America where they have lots of diseases, including Diptheria and high rates of Tuberculosis? Will you change your mind, or stick to your theory that vaccines are too risky? Will you trust the CDC to check their travel advisory or keep assuming they are corrupt? Did you think about what the level of medical care is in those places or who would care for him if he suddenly became ill, the way my son did? What if he wants to backpack in India where there are still cases of wild polio? Life is long and choices change.
This is true for Hep B too. Although it’s BH mostly not applicable to our community, times are changing. The opioid crisis is at our door. Kids are experimenting, and just this week an email came into my inbox that someone who appears ehrlich and frum, was sentenced for visiting an underage human trafficking victim. What about his wife and kids? There is so much potential for emotional damage there, which is not the subject of this article, but thanks to vaccines, risk of Hep B and HPV don’t have to be part of their painful problem. Even varicella can have devastating consequences—usually not as chicken pox, but later in life as Shingles. About 1 in 3 people who have the varicella virus in their systems develop Shingles. About 2% of those live with long-term nerve pain, and in a smaller number, the virus affects their eye. This happened to my mother. She lost vision in one eye and requires frequent medical care.
None of this means that people don’t have vaccine reactions. They do. I’m not sure we have totally accurate numbers on how many reactions actually occur, and this is certainly a source of frustration for a lot of people who don’t trust vaccines. I understand. But don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. We know that thousands of lives are saved by vaccines. We know that enormous suffering is prevented. Most things with benefits—just like driving cars—come with some risks. This is life. But we buckle up and we proceed. In theory, with this new law in place, you can still delay your child’s vaccines a bit, space them out, and decline some if you choose (rotavirus and Hep C are examples of recommended but not required vaccines).
You may be surprised how few vaccinations the average school-aged child actually has to get in order to go to school. I can’t tell you the exact risk your child might have of vaccine injury. But I want you to remember that if and when you vaccinate your child, you are giving him or her years (in some cases, a lifetime) of protection against deadly illnesses which are out there. You don’t know what their world will be like in 40 or 50 years when you are gone. You don’t know where they might travel, or who they might encounter, or what choices they might make. Look at the big picture. And look carefully at today too. Does that online or “alternative” school option you are considering really fit their needs? How are they going to feel leaving their friends and being expected to perform in a completely different way? How might that affect your relationship? Kids are so vulnerable today. We can’t gamble with their mental health.
I hope that the story of my own transformation about views on disease, vaccines, and the consequences of our choices as parents has been helpful to you. We are entrusted with a sacred responsibility, and it’s not easy to always know what is right. I further refer you to Simon Jacobson’s informative review of letters from the Rebbe’s Igros Kodesh on the topic of vaccines.
My best wishes to you and your family for a kesiva v’chasima tova. May we all have a year of abundant health and blessings in every area of life.
Vaccinate your kids not because you want to get them in school. Do it because it’s the right choice! Benefit’s far outweigh any risks and it saves lives. Not vaccinating does not save lives, it does the opposite.
Being Jewish gives us the strength in believing things that the majority of the world doesn’t. Being open minded to ideas that are not accepted in many other circles. The world having only 5779 years or.. we are the chosen people. Our good deeds can influence how things go in our lifes, Israel is our land given to our our patriarchs. Basically it seems like we don’t to rely on other people’s mind while asked why we believe, or why we explain most of our values in a logical way. When it comes to a topic like vaccines, many people… Read more »
Thank GOD for vaccines. You have NEVER been exposed to POLIO, and you should count your blessing. Probably never had whopping cough, tetanus, diphtheria, and probably never measles either. WHY? ’cause your parents listened and you were vaccinated! Walk a mile in the shoes of someone who was afflicted with one of those dread diseases,then talk. Oh wait, you’d be dead from one for sure (tetanus probably diphtheria also), paralyzes from one for sure (polio), and might have lifelong repercussions from two (measles and whopping cough). Are there risks associated with vaccines? Yes, they spell it out in the literature… Read more »
You should read the article by Dr. Thomson from the C.D.C. turned whistleblower who could no-longer live with conscience and came forward explaining how they manipulated the data by removing an entire segment of patients who developed Autistic Spectrum Disease with onset of symptoms within one week of receiving M.M.R..By excluding the kids with Autism it wasn`t difficult to skew the data in the direction showing no connection -his words not mine. And that’s the “landmark” article printed in the Journal “Pediatrics”.
Torah says the refuah for every ill was created Before the ill.
Vaccines use the actual illness as a treatment and therefore do not conform to the Torah proscription that the cure was created first, before the illness -ergo vaccines are not the correct approach to address measels etc from a Torah outlook.
That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard in my life. This is such a silly argument that is so easily disproven and so pretentious of you to decide what the Torah view is on vaccines.
Never thought of it that way – but your logic definitely makes sense.
I totally agree with the view that it is selfish and egotistical not to vaccinate. I WAS vaccinated but that was so long ago that when there was a whooping cough outbreak in my neighborhood I had the misfortune to catch the disease. It was debilitating! Every night I died a few times. Each morning I ‘d say ‘modah ani’ with such kavana because I knew what it felt like to stop breathing! (You are contageous for weeks before the disease manifests itself.) We have the opportunity to protect ourselves and with that save other people’s lives (I’d hate to… Read more »
It is not appropriate for anyone else to be a party to any medical intervencions except the parents of the child! It is the parents who bear the responsibility of those choices, what ever the out come is!
Nope. It’s the kids who get sick who bear the consequences.
They get sick from the vaccination. But the doctors who document it get defunded and lose their licenses. Why did Merck refuse to shut-down their M.M.R. Program as a result of losing Every vaccine-injury lawsuit ! So what did the Government do ? They exempted Merck from damage liability and created a Tax-Funded $ 2 Billion Vaccination Injury Compensation Fund.
If you can’t live isolated – pls vaccinate
Whatever the outcome? So what you’re saying is that if your child is not vaccinated and he gets the measles and then passes it on to a baby who does, that has nothing to do with anyone but yourself? It’s people like you who have blood on their hands
This is a liability free product that has NEVER been evaluated for reproductive harm, carcinogencity or mutagencity. It says so right in the inserts! All of which are rampant in highly vaccinated societies! These conditions cause tremendous suffering to children and their families as well. Can you prove that vaccinated children are healthier than unvaccinated?
What about the people who do get vaccinated and end up with measles as a side effect of the vaccine? Do they also have blood on their hands?
Show me someone who this happened to
Every year for the last 20 years I have family and friends who take the flu shot and get sick with the flu. They are contagious and pass it around.
There are always people who the vaccine can not help. They are an anomaly not the norm. Who can you actually say ended with the measles as a result of the vaccine? The vaccine is either a weakened strain or a dead virus. Know the facts
Parents should NOT have the option to make a decision or choice that can affect (in a DEADLY way) the general public. This is not something that ONLY their children will suffer from (such as the HPV vaccine). To refuse the MMR exposes everyone to a debilitating, if not deadly, disease. There is a reason that the entire medical, scientific and rabbinical community AGREE that, with the exception of medically necessary exemptions, EVERYONE should be vaccinated!
Do not believe FDA. Do not drink oud.
But believe them about all vaacines.
That logic is consistent???
You are correct that parents have choices but that doesn’t mean it’s legal. A parent can decide not to have their child wear a seatbelt but can have legal actions do to it. People have the right to make poor decisions but there are legal consequences. Society isn’t a free for all.
Governments are the one entity with their own citizens blood on their hands throughout history. Far more than anything else they are responsible for killing their own citizens. When did they deserve this blind trust with their track record?
Ever hear of herd immunity? There is no excuse for the tears of one suffering child!
Your rights stop at my feet, when it affects me, my family and my community!
It takes strength to admit that you’ve changed your mind however I don’t think this post will change anyone’s mind. Like yourself the only way you saw the light was when it affected your life, you only saw the error of your ways when faced with the repercussions of your choices. Additionally you’ll never really know if that cab driver was infected by this as well. This is such a hot topic item and people are pretty staunch in their positions. Just wish as a community we could have more empathy and think about how are choices affect everyone and… Read more »
Doesnt add up. He either was exposed to someone or got a vaccine reaction of measles. Read the insert.
There was an outbreak in Israel- first in Yerushayim, then in other areas, including Tsfas. I was writing under the assumption that this was a well-known fact.
Interesting if she and her family in CH got extra care and full vaccinations. Because she states that only little one has vaccines and oldest are not …
She said that he went to get it in Israel
But it was too late because he was already exposed before he got the vaccine
He may have had a vaccine reaction. Did anyone else in yeshiva have measles that he could have caught it from? Did anyone else catch measles from him? I am also a nurse and dont have an opinion either way about vaccination. But this sounds like he had a vaccine reaction. I had a reaction to hepatitis B vaccine and am not allowed to get another shot of it on doctors orders. Some vaccines can cause allergic reactions as happened with me
There were several boys in the yeshiva with measles at that time. A few were hospitalized. I did some research on whether one can actually get the measles from the MMR. What I found is that one can get mild, measles-like symptoms, but not full-blown measles. Case studies have had rashes and fever, but as far as I was able to find, not the whole syndrome with Koplik spots, cough, vomiting, etc… without blood samples, it’s impossible to prove it… then again, technically it’s impossible to prove that he even had the measles. But with exposure and his symptom profile… Read more »
Sounds like he came down with the measles from the vaccine.
…and yes, I told him to go get vaccinated—which he did—but it was too late. The MMR takes about 2 weeks to create antibodies, and the disease take about 10-12 days to incubate, so when he broke out a week after the shot, it was clear that he had been exposed before he ever got the shot…
It’s quite common that ppl have come down with the measles a week after the shot even when there was no outbreak around making it clear that it was from the shot. Numbers are not always as exact as we’d like to believe..
You know how many times people tell me their 12m olds get either a fever or a RASH 1 week post MMR? Often! Measles CAN be contracted from the vaccine. If nobody else in the Yeshiva got the measles then I find it hard to believe it was from exposure to someone with measles. It doesnt add up.
What I dont understand either is, if you made the decision to vaccinate your kids, what happened that the older ones were assumed ok? Those who dont vaccinate dont assume their kids wont get sick or contract measles, rather learn how to recognize and take care if a situation arises + lots of immune boosting especially at times of outbreak.. It doesnt really sound like you made an informed move when you chose to vaccinate. For you it might be a great choice as long as you are comfortable with it but how did you decided what was ok and… Read more »
Lol a fever and rash is a typical reaction to the vaccine and isn’t harmful and is in no way the measles virus. That’s ridiculous. Please have some common sense and maybe don’t assume you have any more medical knowledge than a medical professional because you googled something
“with this new law in place, you can still delay your child’s vaccines a bit, space them out” That is inaccurate! The law allows ONE year for the child to “catch up” on every single vaccine that’s mandated for their age, For example a 1st grader A 6yr old who has never been vaccinated, prior for school enterence would need to be “caught up” with a schedule that is normally spread out over 0-6 years! This aggressive schedule has never been safety tested . NYS school children will be the first of its kind to do so in this country.… Read more »
Most parents want the flexibility to make the vaccination decisions with their pediatricians, rather than be subjected to a goverment mandated schedule.
You have the right to chose what is best for your family , however you don’t have the right to impose what is good for a community, schools etc..I think you should live isolated or in anti vaxxers community , is very selfish for you to expose kids, adults to lethal diseases just because you are part of a movement that has some casualties on their record, you mean well but you are misinformed and please wake up or leave others alone..
Please explain how exactly a parent who declines the flu shot for their 6 month old baby or the Gardisol vaccine for their pre teen is “imposing on the community” or why it is appropriate to recommend they live “isolated”
This is the CDC schedule that Physicans are encouraged to recommend to their ALL their patients. The former now being law mandated for day care enterence in NY.
Please explain how it’s selfish for healthy kids to expose other to disease they don’t have?
What about all the kids walking around sent to school with fevers and sick with strep? Or kids with lice or kids with pinworms sent to school to spread and expose all their goodies to other kids? Should they also live isolated?
What a silly comment, lice is not good but your kid will be fine , however your kids with polio, measles or others will be destroyed
Simple. It’s not. Kids with strep or or lice or anything else that’s contagious should stay home until they aren’t contagious anymore. And kids who aren’t vaccinated should stay home till they are vaccinated.
Thank you for your bravery in writing this really important article. Although I an not an anti vaxer, this just convinced me how seriously important it is to Get Vacinated!
Thank you again, much nachas
im amazed at your humility…. your ability to rethink a decision you were so staunch about, and share that with us. it is very admirable and truly selfless!
What is the demographics of these patients under your care who were infected with Hepatitis B? Do these particular patients justify the Hep B vaccine being a gatekeeper for childcare of babies or the education of a school aged child of all NYS residents? Because this is what the law entails! Do these patients justify a baby with no risk factor being injected with a liability free product that carries 250mcg of aluminum being injected into their developing brain . There are documented medical cases all over the world of severe neurological injury and even death of these infants. Isn’t… Read more »
You know there is a period of time after the vaccine that can cause a person to get the disease they are being vaccinated for right?
Also are you really sure that you are the reason others don’t vax? Some people educate themselves…
What does that mean some people educate themselves? Are you suggesting some people do their own research and find things out that scientists and medical professionals and researchers don’t know? Or do you mean some people educate themselves by enrolling in a school aNd learning science?
How about an article from someone who is an ex-vaxxer with the same title: I vaccinated my kid and here’s what happened.
This is a breath of fresh air, thank you for taking the time to share your experiences and sound advise
Public discourse has become so juvenile and simplistic on almost every topic: gun control, vaccines, immigration, etc. Thank you, Shayna, for bringing nuance and perspective to the mix. You told it like it is: life is not a risk-free endeavor. Vaccines are like seatbelts. You do your best; Hashem does the rest!
From what I understand if u actually get the chicken pox you are immune for life including shingles etc. While with the vaccine there is higher chances of bigger problems down the line.
So why should anyone force me to make such a choice??
That is incorrect. Shingles are a result of chicken pox exposure. The virus can stay dormant in your nervous system and reactivate causing symptoms of shingles.
There other way around. If you get the actual chicken pox you’re able to get shingles
its actually good for those who had natural CP to re-expose themselves every so often to ward off shingles.
You can only get the shingles of you have had chickenpox. True the vaccine doesn’t last forever, but you can get a booster as an adult. And since chicken pox doesn’t go around much anymore (because vaccines do work after all) , if someone isn’t vaccinated and gets chicken pox as a pregnant woman… Oy vey. I live abroad in shlichus in a developing country. Imagine me having to catch up on all the childhood behind as an adult in order to be able to safely live here. My kids receive shots every time we travel to NY (kinus, etc).… Read more »
It’s the other way. If you had the chicken pox years later it can come back as shingles. The vaccine will prevent chicken pox AND shingles. I had chicken pox as a child, but they won’t give me the shingles vaccine until I’m 50. (I asked for the vaccine, offered to pay out of pocket, they said, “no. It’s not reccomended yet.” I said my sister got shingles and she’s younger than me. They said, “Still not.” I guess the anti-vaxxers are wrong. My doctor doesn’t only care about money.)
I had chicken pox but I know too many older people who also had and got shingles
Take a chance no way. Shingles vax and now shingrix. Anti vaxxers abuse their children. No school no camp. Resentful children are at risk. Home schooling is against the law unless you register with local school Dept and have lesson plans. The parents who want to start their own school become a school and then must vaccinate. They’ll get caught. What seminary or yeshiva will accept them. Who would make a Shidduch
Fools who will learn the hard way. Meanwhile innocent kids suffer
Thats because it used to be that people would get CP all the time so the adults around would get ‘boosters’ but now since its not common, unless you re-expose urself, you are at higher risk of developing shingles.
Shingles is a form of chicken pox. The chicken pox virus hides out in nerve cells and can reappear years later as shingles. Shingles can be spread to others and it causes chicken pox. Having chicken pox doesnt make you immune to shingles but rather can cause shingles years later
The educational and medical choices you made for YOUR child at the time were just that, YOURS. They didn’t arrive via goverment mandates or outside opinions deeming what is “right” for your family.
If we did the right things in the first place the government wouldn’t be getting involved.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I recently found out that my family is affected by the MTHFR genetic mutation. I have heard that this makes the likelihood of vaccine injury higher. Do you know if there have been any studies on people with the mutation that show whether the risk is higher or not? I hear it is a very common mutation and while some people say vaccines are safe even for those with MTHFR, I would feel much better seeing the study. Thanks!
Parents cannot delay, space out or decline any ONE of the 13 mandated vaccines on the current schedule and could encompass more in the future , as there is NYS legislation to mandate the Gardisol and flu Vaccine, which many adults decline! Are these truly lifesaving and necessary vaccines? Has our Yeshivas not managed for decades without them? Its time to use the critical thinking skills Hashem gave us.
Flu vaccine i was told not to take because of egg allergy. Gardisol is known to cause many reactions and not needed if observing halacha of intimacy before marriage
Thank you Shayna for sharing this
While I have always vaccinated my children I did so with caution. When I once discussed with my doctor (a Rofeh Yedid) about a certain vaccine he told me , You Lubavitchers are different. Your children travel all over the world and get exposure to many things. It is important for your community to vaccinate.)
I once had a discussion with Rabbi Ariel Rav noy z’l if shiduchim should be tested for STD.
When I went to a close friend, lubavitch urologist for issues, he asked if I had ever had an STD, bh no but it takes courage to address this.
“appeared to have been damaged or killed by vaccines” Correction they WERE damaged, in some cases severely by vaccination. There is over 4 billion dollars to date in compensation paid to those families.
Where there is risk there must be A choice!
Why are we fighting and not agreeing to the deportment of education on what they are forcing us to learn, according to what politicians and all educational professionals in USA agree is very important for us all as Americans (herd immunity). And when it comes to the SAME POLITICIANS who say to vaccinate we agree blindly? Interestingly – both “gezeros” (forcing what to learn and to kick the unvaccinated out of school) are happening at the same time. Our rabonim are agreeing to and fighting for “parents choice” on education, but strongly fighting against “parents choice” on vaccinations. Maybe if… Read more »
So true!
Not every Medical professional agrees with the narrative the author presents. Many of these people have many more years of working experience than her and are brave enough to to be speaking out on the other side of this issue
I guess 500+ frum physicians doesn’t count as the majority opinion. They must all be paid off by pharma.
http://drsforvaax.org/
The majority of the 500 people with the title of “Dr” in front of their name are actually dentists, podiatrists etc NOT Physicians. And even the ones who are are not ones whos practice employs vaccines such as a Dermatologist etc. They were simply asked to sign the petition and I question how much they truly studied the subject matter in any kind of depth like the “minority” of Physicians who have a history of vaccinating children and are BRAVE to speak out as they witnessed severe life altering adverse reactions or even death among their patients a at the… Read more »
It’s very stressful and upsetting that there are SO many people out there in OUR community that refuse to vaccinate!!!! They are outright only thinking about themsleves. It’s so selfish to not vaccinate, and put so many innocent Jewish lives in danger. It’s the biggest lack of ahavas yisroel!! Here in L.A. there are so many Lubavitchers that refuse to vaccinate, because they are afraid of autisim. There have been many doctors that disproved the whole theory that the mmr shot causes autism. If it were the case, then everyone vaccinated would get it!! These diseases out there are deadly.… Read more »
Any space in your head and heart that some people react differently to certain things than others. It’s like saying peanuts are scientifically proven safe so let’s inject them into every newborn .
Hello…yes we are all different and will react differently to different things even though they may be ‘proven’ safe. And no not everyone wants to take that risk nor should they endanger their own in order to ‘save’ yours
Getting varicella vaccine does not mean that you won’t get shingles! The opposite is true, shingles have increased since the varicella vaccine. Every adult who had chicken pox and gets reexposed to chicken pox gets a 10 year booster against shingles! It’s only now that we basically got rid of chicken pox do we have an increase of shingles. That is one of the reasons that many countries in Europe don’t vaccinate for varicella.
I thought so
So much misinformation and blind naivete by the pros
It’s not a guarantee. But if you are a responder to the varicella vaccine- which 90% of people are— then it’s highly unlikely that you would get the Shingles, or at the very least, the severity would be significantly decreased. The booster phenomenon is interesting, but it’s not a guarantee either. Besides, who is going to go looking for kids with chicken pox to get boosted every so often?
Thank you for sharing your story. A very well written, informative article which I hope is taken to heart!
Sounds like some commenters here are unfortunately victims to the wild epidemic called “media brainwashing”
The media has blown this whole vaccine saga WAY out of por portion…untill the point where an uneducated fellow tells her unvaccinated friend “do you not care about the fact that you are walking around and killing people in the streets RIGHT NOW?!?” chill please! Stop letting yourself be brainwashed and go find your opinion for yourself! And stop telling others that they are currently killing helpless humans because we all know that is utter nonsense! Stop preaching the UNVACCINATED. Go get yourself EDUCATED. now.
Happens to be a lot of the pro vaxers aren’t as much in to health and eating healthy as most anti vaxers are
Keep in mind that there is such a thing as vaccine injury and CHVSH something were to happen just because you wanted the child in school, it would likely backfire when child got older and understood that you knowingly got him vaccines. You know how some people now are FORCED to vaccinate so they take many precautions and make sure to prepare the body before and detox well to do their best to avoid issues chvsh. You seem to not have had any real reasons not to vaccinate when you were in that category and therefore were able to just… Read more »
I acknowledged the existence of vaccine injury a few times in my article. My point is that I developed a more realistic and mature understanding of the risk/benefit profile of vaccines after both my education and my son’s illness. Like many I was afraid of vaccines. “What if” vaccines cause SIDS/ autism/ neurological impairment/ autoimmune dysfunction? What if this is the explanation for our sick generation? But you can ask that question about a thousand coexisting factors. Until you have data it’s just a “what if.” When I learned to read research there were a lot of times when I… Read more »
With things did you try to research and couldn’t find data? What made you want to vaccinate him right then? You had to have known something. Was he exposed to measles and this was what someone said to do, get vaccinated within three days or something? He had measles and was fine just like everyone else. What exactly was the problem that made you decide to vaccinate him? What research can you show me medically to change my opinion? Does it exist? Share links.
It is refreshing to see some honesty, especially when it contradicts your previous opinion/s, as noble as they seemed at the time. You hit all the points, spot on. You have now helped the community, Jewish People, and civilization at large.
-PH
It is good to hear about your recent life pursuits. I hope it is going well for you. I also appreciate your desire to make reparations for the past. It is not easy to put yourself out there for public purview. Elul is the time for personal stocktaking, so the timing is also most appropriate. I do not generally comment on these posts, but felt it appropriate to at least comment back to you directly. Unfortunately, we didn’t need a Youtube video and our cries to the doctors went unheard. The memory of the visceral pain and agony each shot… Read more »
Thank you for your comment. It’s difficult to understand exactly what what happened, but it sounds as though someone in your family had an adverse reaction. As you say, this can happen with any drug. Let’s hope that more research is done which will allow such reactions to become a thing of the past.
This is precisely why vaccines should not be mandated.
You clearly state that you did not do your own research. As a midwife you must be well aware of the majority of Drs.opinions Regarding alternative births. Yet you continue to beleive in midwifery and support mother’s right to choose how to birth. Does that choice stop after birth? Your article is full of fear. What if….it accepts the THEORY of herd immunity as fact. It vaguely references vaccine injury, addresses only autism, and completely downplays the documented reactions including paralysis and death. And Hep b?? Even if your newborn wanted to have sex or use drugs it would be… Read more »
I’m glad that you bring up the topic of midwifery and “alternative birthing” as you call it (by which I assume you mean out of hospital birth). Both midwifery and out of hospital birth in a selected population have been shown repeatedly to yield good outcomes with superior maternal satisfaction. This is DATA. And data on adverse reactions does not show these outcomes of vaccines that you are mentioning. Rather, the data that I have seen shows overwhelming safety. Please show me your data. I want to see it. As for babies getting Hep B- there are multiple reasons for… Read more »
As a midwife you support women choosing alternative birth plans against most medical opinions. Does that ability to choose stop after birth? Are we no longer responsible to make the best choices for OUR children first?
You state you did not research. Therefore you must not know the documented side effects of vaccines. The court cases that determined autism, paralysis, and death from vaccines.
And hepB given on the day a child is born?? Have you met a baby who needs this? If you have there is a much bigger issue than catching hepatitis!
All makes sense but some of the vaccines you are saying are for risks that are later in life.
So do children need to get them now for School?
Because #1 they have a good immune response when they are young and #2 they do still have some risk as children and #3 this is the mechanism they have for making sure it gets done. This really only refers to Hep B so my advice is to try not to get too caught up on it.
They are all needed for school and you vaccinated to send to school so it talks much more than hep b alone.
Children actually don’t have good immune response when babies because of they are nursing, they get antibodies and make the vaccine less effective. I thought you said you researched?!
However there is a reason many don’t trust vaccine companies. They can’t be sued. This means they have NO motivation to improve vaccines- (especially since now there’s close to no choice for children to take them or not) and every reason to keep creating more and more and more.
there is huge corruption in many industries– agriculture being one example. Are you going to stop eating?
Just like you I have my own experiences and education that has led me to my decisions regarding my children’s health. And you know what I’ve learned that once all is said and done. I am my child’s biggest advocate. I know when my child is not well I know when something is wrong even when the doctors can’t pin point and all the test results come back fine. I know when my child is regressing and losing his speech. I also know that bina yeseira nitna leisha. If I have a mother’s intuition that this child is not strong… Read more »
That’s nice that you question doctors and “get informed”. But please realize that doctors and scientists have many many years of schooling where they get informed on facts and science and medicine. Perhaps if you really want to get informed you can study science for many years and then make a calculated decision. You trust a pilot to fly your plane. Trust a doctor with medicine.
why has science and medicine become the new God? Science and medicine is always changing. Medicines that used to be recommended to pregnant women were found out to cause birth defects. Science is not absolute. Dr’s also said Tobacco is safe… what’s if the scientist discover in 20 years these vaccines caused more harm than good.
I have a relative who is a scientist she works in creating the flu vaccines each year she said there is not enough time to research the affects….
Thank you for a brave, honest, and telling article. It has to have taken a lot of courage to write that article and I think it gives a lot of people food for thought. It seems not everyone is open to hearing from others, but many people are. Thank you for sharing!
I am sure you have heard in your medical studies of something called family history, the reason why is to figure out what is the likelyhood on how something will effect an individual. People have died and had adverse reactions from both the vaccine and the wild strain virus/bacteria. Life rarely gives us clear answers and it becomes a cost/benefit analysis the parents have to make separately for each child and each vaccine.
As a Good fearing Jew, I would rather rely on God than entrust my life or my children’s lives into the hands of scientist’s and doctors and their poison’s. I think that a Jew should have the right to practice his or her religion in Jewish Schools. Don’t blame the government because there are states that allow Exemptions but the private Jewish School does not!
Thank you for sharing!
Amen to your blessings. Thank you for the excellent article
You start out criticizing the schools that actually care about chinuch and have kept the two issues separate. One of the online programs is run by an existing cheder and is fantastic. Their curriculum actually focuses on Torah. Then you are honest enough, unlike anyone else on your side, to say that vaccines can have side effects. But you gloss those over, go into every possibility within possibility of what can happen without a vaccine. What about the traumatic, albeit rare, side effects of vaccinating that you mention? I’m not sure what the point of this article is. Trashing good… Read more »
“….when he broke out a week after the shot, it was clear that he had been exposed before he ever got the shot..” Respectfully, if he broke out with measles one week after the measles shot, common sense says the shot gave him the measles, despite what the “textbooks” say about time it takes for “antibodies to form” There is no evidence for a definite time frame, every person is different. Sounds like med community making excuses for the fact that he got measles from the measles vaccine. I know, since this happened to me with the flu vaccine, got… Read more »