Tznius isn’t a bad word anymore.
Working boys can still be chassidishe.
Mishichist? Anti? Nobody cares.
Our education system… is a hurricane of a disaster but we are all open and willing to fix it.
These days, we talk about things.
As a community, Chabad has overcome so much friction. Indeed, we have made incredible progress in destroying misconceptions and replacing them with truthful and kind perspectives.
But I’m still hesitant to go back home for Pesach.
Why? Because I’m a spinster.
Definition of Spinster: A successful, college-educated, 20-something-year-old woman who dates regularly and enjoys a happy community life in Crown Heights.
I am not desperate to get married.
I repeat: I am not desperate to get married.
Can we please all stop thinking that I am?
The ‘Shidduch Crisis’ is not an event, or institution, or opinion, or theory, or existence in my world. I could not care less about the fact that some adults are married and some adults are not. I believe in a God who has a plan for everyone and frankly, I thank God for the gift of allowing me my single years.
There should be nothing shameful or upsetting about the fact that I am single. I would be more than happy to enter a responsible and healthy relationship with the right man. I would take on the financially strained, lack of freedom, child-bearing reality of married people gladly, if that is the path to which I was led. But I wasn’t. And I am very okay. I have rejected many men because I am looking for my husband, not just another totally awesome dude who can buy me a drink at a bar after his mother confirms that I fit her requirements of a daughter-in-law.
So, to all the married people and teenagers who will be congregating with me at my parents’ home and think that it is a pity that I am not yet married:
I ask that we please refrain from discussing potential suitors for me over Pesach. I am not the artwork on the wall or the latest political scandal. Conversation pieces do not include potential suitors for me. Please.
Let’s not talk about me.
I understand you want to care for me- so care about the things I care about. Right now, we are celebrating the beautiful Yom Tov of Pesach. That’s what I came home for. So, let’s talk about it, not me.