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Flatbush Girl Finds Chabad

From the COLlive inbox: 23-year-old Tamara G. who grew up in Flatbush, Brooklyn and now lives in Manhattan, says she found Chabad and "refuses to return it." Full Story

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wow
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wow

incredibly well written

Nice
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Nice

Wow–very strong writing–well done!

thank you
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thank you

Inspirational. Stick around for a while, we need people like you in Chabad.

Very Nice
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Very Nice

Rabbis Silberstein and Birk are both top notch!

Incredible
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Incredible

Rabbi Levinger is the kindest, smartest and most patient person I ever met! Go, Mayanot GO!!!

Very nice!
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Very nice!

Interestingly enough, over 100 years ago, Mark Twain made similar observations regarding Jewish factions (re: “Concerning the Jews”, by Mark Twain).

this is the way it is suppose to be
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this is the way it is suppose to be

I hope chabad accepts the same way she accepts chabad….

Had the privillege of getting to know the Cornell Shluchim
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Had the privillege of getting to know the Cornell Shluchim

They are truly incredible people, and so unique in the world we live in today. You’ve touched many people’s lives, as you’ve touched Tamara’s. May G-d bless you to go from strength to strength, and have only revealed good always!

Words from the heart...
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Words from the heart...

Dearest Tamar; Words from the heart, enter the heart. Your letter oozes sincerity. It’s very rare since I have heard someone speak with such honesty and sincerity. But for this, I feel sad. Why? Because when people such as yourself, are the type that can ‘think outside of the box’, the majority of the time they get blown away and therefore, discouraged, frustrated, and hurt. Ignorance is bliss. I’m sure you’ve heard this before. So, I’m just hoping and praying that you will find your bershet, stay happy and optimistic in life, have and love your children. Be kind to… Read more »

To #7
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To #7

I just want to shake your hand one day.

the truth
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the truth

Beautiful!!!!! May you always be a light onto the nations

Amazing!!!!!!!
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Amazing!!!!!!!

I’ve read this over maybe 25x now. Incredible. This should be the norm.

age.
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age.

i came to chabad sixty three years ago ,i feel the same as “tamara” this was in israel ,now my age is seventy five,with four children ,thirty grand children ,twelve great grand children,all are chabad ,and growing .zaidy.

Bayis Moleh Seforim--
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Bayis Moleh Seforim--

Time for Tanya to grace more Jewish shelves.
Time for Likkutei Moharan to grace more Jewish shelves. Etc.

wow
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wow

this is beautiful
thank you for sharing

i got two words.....
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i got two words.....

UN – BELIEVABLE!

Hi from DC
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Hi from DC

Happy to see you saw the light.

When you lived in Washington you didnt seem as sure. Did the Shemtovs finally tip the scale for you?

to #14
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to #14

I was in Baltimore last year, and I tried making a Chavrusa with a Bochur in Ner Yisroel to learn Tanya. Anyways, when I followed up with him, he told me he had to go home for a few months, but as a matter of fact, his father has a Tanya at home (although he himself has never learned from it)…its time for Limud HaChassidus to take over the world at large…Nem a Misnaged Un Lern Mitt Em, trust me, he’s just waiting for you to ask him!!

wow!
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wow!

Toma, I am so impressed (not surprised) just impressed. Loved the piece. Might return to my local chabad soon
Care to join us? Alla G.

Not told often enough!
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Not told often enough!

Great story, I would love to hear more like this.

Good for you!
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Good for you!

I applaud you Tamara, for speaking up and sharing your experiences with us; I’m inspired that you found inspiration!

Skeptic
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Skeptic

Chabad is great with people who are interested in learning chassidus – they are not so interested or friendly to those Orthodox Jews who are not so inclined.

More seforim -
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More seforim -

– time for the books of the Vilna Gaon and Reb Chaim Volozhiner to grace the shelves of Jewish homes –

Wow!
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Wow!

Absolutely incredible!! Love love love!
So full of humor and so full of truth!

Beautiful article!
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Beautiful article!

Tamara, I was deeply inspired by your piece!
I believe you’ll really enjoy this when you got a chance!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YKBeuiXQf3E

INCREDIBLE!
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INCREDIBLE!

INCREDIBLE, INCREDIBLE, INCREDIBLE! Please tell me where I can meet you. This is the first time I have ever read anything like this. Please write more.

Awesome article
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Awesome article

Hi Tamara you wrote this so beautifully .
I agree with everything you said
And if more people would stop labeling each other
The world would be a better place and more children would find their besherts I hope you do soon .mn

beautiful!
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beautiful!

such a nicely written article.

incredibly moved
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incredibly moved

Tamara, you impress me not only with your deep-seated connection to Chassidus but also with your excellent writing skills. May you be zoche to touch more souls with words that come from the heart.

Have you ever tried to submit your story to N’shei magazine or the Jewish Woman (chabad.org’s women’s sub site)?

Having visited the Silberstein’s many a time, I can relate with with what you are saying- I have been touched by Rabbi Eli’s rendering of Sichas on the parsha or yomtov and by Mrs.’s insights into just about anything.
-D.B.

los angeles
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los angeles

Very well written article.

One of the many reasons I love to live in L.A. is the fact that all types of yidden live in one area. The neighbor on my right it’s sephardic, while the neighbor on my left is yeshivish. We learn to respect and appreciate each other’s ways of avodah.

Cornell Roitman Chabad
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Cornell Roitman Chabad

The Silbersteins, the Birks and their entire families have turned the town up sidedown, infusing ruchnius into every neshama they come in contact with. May they continue in good health in their good works. Tamara – good luck on the bar 🙂

Chabad is great! Indeed! (When it's teachings are followed)
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Chabad is great! Indeed! (When it's teachings are followed)

Be careful of those (some) who, present themselves as “chabad” but don’t exactly live by its teachings and values

If someone shows selective Ahavat Yisroel, Disrespect for Torah, Disrespect to another human being, then they are NOT CHABAD, they are misrepresenting chabad.

Only the Rebbes, their words and teachings define chasidis, those who follow those teachings authentically are authentic Chasidim/followers

shiduch
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shiduch

so are you looking for a chabad guy

#30
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#30

I TOTALLY AGREE!!!
I AM ON SHLICHUS BUT DONT GO TO A LUBAVITCH SCHOOL AND LOVE THE FACT THAT LA IS SO OPEN TO THAT IDEA, I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE, AND THATS HOW EVERYTHING IS IN LA.
SOME OF MY (NON-LUBAVITCH) FRIENDS FATHERS GO TO LUBAVITCH SHULS AND EVERYONE MINGLES TOGETHER.
GO LA-ERS!
AND THIS WAS A GREAT ARTICLE TO READ, AND EVERYONE SHOULD REALLY TAKE IT TO HEART, AND NOT BE SO INTO CLASSIFING GROUPS OG JEWS, WHY CANT WE ALL JUST LIVE IN UNITY???

Wow!
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Wow!

Thank you Tamara for this beautiful article.
You expressed so well the beauty of Chabad and what you find there in words that are relatable to all. You inspired me. Thank you! May you grow in all good ways and build a beautiful Yiddishe home!
A campus Shliach

Awesome!
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Awesome!

Great writing, great message.

FLATBUSH FOR THE WIN!

The Silberstiens
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The Silberstiens

I was with them in Tannersville, the Catskills one summer and they are so brilliant that i cannot fathom why we in Chabad are not benefiting more from them… they could have their own website… non-stop shiurim and farbrengens. They don’t just teach.. they make you think, really think… but more than that, they are such good, caring people with such a great sense of humour – honestly, these people need to be promoted more!!! For our sakes!

Cried
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Cried

I cried reading this. You have touched many hearts Tamara!

:-)
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:-)

Great read, but her final thoughts (to me) were most poignant. Growing up in a “gezsh” family (how the heck is it spelled anyway?), living in CH attending OT it was made very clear that the entire world, including the rest of the frum world, can KIT. Many of you reading this comment are thinking…..that’s correct, so what? Punkfarkert (reader still thinking), that’s why Lubavitch (I don’t like saying “Chabad.”……something to do with it’s hipster-ness) is so successful as Shluchim and (according to Col front page news) in business as well. Our braitkyt and KOV mentality. I got news, that’s… Read more »

I KNOW HER!
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I KNOW HER!

WOAH WOAH WOAH!!!!

GO TAMAR, GO.

Wow
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Wow

I have known you since 9th grade and in never occured to me you write this well! No wonder our English teachers always loved you.

Impressive
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Impressive

You graduated from Cornell Law and you’re only 23? That’s amazing. Congrats.

touched
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touched

You have real writing talent coupled with an openess and sincerity that is so moving- hatzlacha rabba in spreading the wellsprings even further…

YES!
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YES!

One day some lucky (chabad?) guy is going to marry you and you are going to raise a special kind of family in Klal Yisroel.

32 important reminder
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32 important reminder

I agree

Chasidus works!

Not all who claim to represent it, really do

Boruch Nissim Hoffinger   HaKohaine...            BS"D
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Boruch Nissim Hoffinger HaKohaine... BS"D

Dear Ms. Tamara G.,
‘Nefesh Eloquit’: Thanks for finding me.
Very proud of you.
“Moshiach will come when your wellsprings (Teaching of ‘Chassidus’) flow over.”
HaShem said this to The Bal Shem Tov in one of the rabbi’s ascensions into Gan Eden.
Very well written…moving; meaningful. ‘Todah’ COLlive.com

Inspirational on all levels!!
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Inspirational on all levels!!

Now all of us who have so to speak “had Chabad” find what Tamara has written about so beautifully!!
Her depth and talent is extraordinary—but then every Jew can find and appreciate all that she has —with a bit of real effort!!!

Great writing style!
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Great writing style!

This can be your career…

wow!!!
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wow!!!

nice writing…….would love you for a daughter-in-law!

To 49
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To 49

Yep! Me too!

 So Insightful!!!
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So Insightful!!!

Beautifully written and powerful <3

Future Shlucha guaranteed ...
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Future Shlucha guaranteed ...
to #10
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to #10

what if your of different genders? kidding.
Very nice. very well writen.

to #30 and #34
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to #30 and #34

am with you totally!! Living in LA, i feel so amazed how much unity is essential in the community. Its a privilege to live there. And as for Tamara, I personally think you have a special writing skill. Maybe you should write a book someday, or become an editor. You are definately inspiring. And may you find your beshert very soon, amen!

tamara
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tamara

I would love to meet you some day. Many speak from their mouth; you speak from your heart. Your article is only sincerity. Its also a bit humorous, but touching in the kind of way that only special people can do. It gave me the chills. May you find a beshert very soon and merit internal happiness.
D. L. S.

tamara
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tamara

you are beautiful, inside and out, truly

career
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career

you write very linguistically. I think you should write a book about this.

ME TOO
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ME TOO

I too came to chabad sixty years ago from a frum family that was virulently against chabad and its philosophy. And all I can say every day is ASHREINU MATOV CHELKAYNU that I am part of this wonderful community and have a Rebbe who is there for us no matter what or how,

thank you so much for taking the time to put these thoughts on paper and share with us
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thank you so much for taking the time to put these thoughts on paper and share with us

May you build a beautiful lichtig home and reach out to people like yourself

truly amazing
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truly amazing

Hope ur article encourages others to write & share their experiences w finding chabad &how it impacted their life.its a great idea for the right person to compile these stories into a book.hope to hear from u in the near future as your further experiemces(that of a young successful w it person)impact ur life &can inspire others too.

change of pace
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change of pace

Its great to see these beautiful positive articles on col.specially in the nine days.keep it coming. Eventhough controversial is also bbeneficial

Umm...
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Umm...

Yea you are pretty awesome. Good luck w all the shiduch suggestions!

Unity
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Unity

it’s amazing to see that many of the comments highlighted a point she made- not to label everyone.Us Frum Jews are like little siblings, we always fight, but deep down we love each other tremendously. Therefore throughout history whenever a bully ( any tzoros)started up with one of our brothers/ sisters we immediately banded together -in unity.
If only we increase in our ahavas chinam on a constant basis (not to label /mock /disrespect…each other) i’m sure Moshiach will be here in the blink of an eye.

AGREE AGREE
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AGREE AGREE

agree agree agree.

AMAZING ARTICLE!!!
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AMAZING ARTICLE!!!

The Silbersteins are incredible people, you’re so lucky to have been with them!

You are an amazing writer!! Kol Hakavod!

Woah
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Woah

You write beautifully. Great job!

Great article
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Great article

…and great shluchim. BH you found some of our best and brightest! Silbersteins, Birks, and Levingers are all top notch!

#22 - Not Only For Chassidus
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#22 - Not Only For Chassidus

I’ve been to multiple Chabad houses with my complete Litvak self and I’ve always been welcomed with open arms. No Chassidus necessary.

Wow
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Wow

You should spread chassidus and light in Flatbush. Share the richness with your friends and family!! You’ll be great!!

Great
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Great

Nice to see young people writing their stories on here. Also, you write really well.

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