By Chaya Feldman
This is a letter of gratitude to many wonderful women who are role models to me, without their being aware of it.
Being that I live in Crown Heights, the majority of the women I refer to are Crown Heights residents.
When I walk down the avenue and I observe women who are impeccably dressed, according to the standard of Torah and according to the directives of our dear Rebbe, it has a tremendous impact on me. I desire to emulate these women.
“If they can do it, so can I!”
From top to bottom there are no “on the border” issues with the way these women are dressed.
The skirt is not only long enough when the wind does not blow.
The collar bone is not only covered when the neck does not move.
The elbow is not only covered when the arm is not lifted.
The garment is not so tight that it is almost impossible not to look again.
There is no leg exposed below the hem or between the leggings and the short socks.
Their Shaitel covers all every hair.
The attire is the attire of a Bas Melech.
There is a dignity that defies inappropriate fashion.
So when I see a woman dressed this way, what kind of a practical effect does it have on me? It makes me pause in front of the mirror before I leave my home.
I ask myself:
“Am I OK ? Is this the way I want to be seen?”
I know that my attire will influence many people who will see me.
I won’t be able to take it back if I’m not dressed properly.
How do I know if a woman won’t say to herself:
“If it’s OK for her, and she is such a Macher in the community, and she comes from such a prestigious family, then who is to say that it’s not good enough for me?”
Please ladies, take this message to heart because it comes from my heart.
Think of all the Brochos that will come upon you, your husbands, your children and upon all of Klal Yisroel.
Brochos of Gezunt, Parnassah, Nachas and the ultimate Brocha of Moshiach now! May you all have a kesiva vachasima tova.