You are constantly being watched.
Listen to this, I was at a friend’s house Shabbos afternoon. Shabbos afternoons these days are nice and long. The house was packed with kids. Inside, outside, they were all over the house. The bored older kids (seventh graders) decided to run a mini Shabbos Color War with the younger kids. The first activity was to put on a Shabbos skit. I was sitting on the living room couch.
(which happened to be the audience section, apparently I got front row seats). Center stage was the living room. I haven’t been to a play in a while (COVID 19) so I was excited to be entertained. The first group got up. It was two girls, ages seven and eight.
I’ll give you a play by play:
Costumes: Big Shabbos hat, long neck tie, oversized jacket.
The setting takes place in a Shul, where you see two men finishing davening. As they close their Siddurim and head out, one “man” turns to the other.
Man 1: Hey brother, (slaps him on the back) You want to come over to my house for some Cholent and L’chaim?
Man 2: Sure, that sounds good! Let’s go!
They walk a few steps and are now in Man 1’s house.
Man 2: Yum, this Cholent is so good, here have more L’Chaim.
They both fill each other’s cups up with more L’chaims (grape juice). They keep drinking until they start singing, then dancing and then spinning in circles, and then bumping into each other, and then rolling on the floor and laughing.
Man 1 and 2: We’re drunk (laughing) ha ho, we’re drunk.
The two “men” scramble to their feet, take a bow and say together:
“That’s it?” I asked.
“Yeah that’s the end of our skit,” they both giggled.
That was their whole skit.
Their message was very clear. Wow, was it loud and clear.
FATHERS! (and Mothers) Is this what you want your kids emulating? Is this what you want them exposed to? Your children see and absorb everything you do. You are their biggest role models.
Please please stop the Kiddush clubs, stop the drinking, stop, stop, STOP!
It’s not just drinking, children pick up everything we do. How we speak to our spouse and others, how much time we spend on our phone, how we speak to and about others and our comments we make about ourselves or others.
They see everything. Let’s make a conscious effort to be positive role models for the most impressionable segment of our society, our children, our future.