The challenge around shidduchim these days is real, but TheShidduchOffice is committed to facing the challenge head on. Their goal is to bring back dignity and simplicity to the process of shidduchim.
An important objective of TheShidduchOffice – actually its vision statement – is “Shidduchim with dignity and ease” for all singles in the Lubavitch community. To that end, there are plans for all types of events and frameworks to address every single, no matter who or where they are.
TheShidduchOffice in numbers:
Just 3 months since starting
7 networking events (2 more scheduled in the near future)
170 + unshadchans presented their singles
270 + singles presented
1 successful Shidduch
Several matches in the works; IYH, we will soon hear more Mazal Tovs.
The Story Behind TheShidduchOffice
A group of women celebrating the wedding of the son of a classmate. As they chatted around the elegant dinner table, they came up with a shidduch idea for the son of another classmate with the daughter of a friend they all knew. And Mazal Tov, several weeks later that young couple is engaged. Simple networking amongst friends.
Another Shidduch was made by a gracious hostess who consistently has lots of guests at her beautiful and engaging Shabbos meals. During the meal, she got to know a particular girl who she thought would be compatible with a bochur who had been at their Shabbos table several times in the past. And Mazal Tov, several weeks later that young couple is engaged. (Actually, she has made a quite a few shidduchim this way.)
And yet another Shidduch was made by the bochur’s boss to a girl who is a friend of his wife.
These Shidduchim made by the ‘regular’ person, an un-shadchan (someone who is passionate about helping people find their shidduch). And of course, there are many more such stories, in all variations.
So the thought was: Shadchanim are working hard and furiously to try to make Shidduchim, but there is only so much they can humanly do. How might we create a framework where more people are networking and advocating for the singles they know? What type of structure would be helpful in facilitating more shidduchim with more ease and dignity? How might the ‘regular person’ be inspired to make shidduchim for singles they know? How might we help the ‘regular person’ who has a Shidduch idea actually make the Shidduch happen? For every Lubavitch single, no matter where they are.
TheShidduchOffice was formed to address just that. It is community based coop organization that includes Chavi Katzman, Devora Krasnianski, Chani Marcus, Chanchi Milecki and Sarah Yarmash. And you.
Starting with the networking events amongst advocates (mothers, sisters, friends, and anyone else who is helping a single find their shidduch), bringing shadchanim and unshadchanim together with the advocates to network and find shidduchim. And a secure collection of profiles where each contributor has full control of how (or if) it is shared with shadchanim or others. There are many other initiatives and projects in the works.
Everyone and Anyone Can Help TheShidduchOffice Help Make Shidduchim
TheShidduchOffice sees themselves as a coop organization, where everyone of the greater Lubavitch community is working together to make more shidduchim. Everyone knows someone who needs a shidduch. Everyone has ideas and talents and other resources that can help the whole community.
Everyone, especially the ‘regular person’ can be part of making more shidduchim. Everyone – fathers, mothers, mashpiim, mashpios, singles, community activists, business people, everyone. You might have experience or skills or connections or access to resources that might be helpful to growing TheShidduchOffice networking and infrastructure. Something larger, something smaller, something. In the zchus of the community members helping each other make more shidduchim, may we be abundantly and speedily blessed with many many shidduchim, and all other brachos.
As part of TheShidduchOffice vision, they are looking to expand globally. They are looking for partners to start similar networking events and their other projects in other locations to ensure that all singles are assisted – no matter where in the world they are. If you are interested in doing that, TheShidduchOffice would like to help with guidance and support so we all succeed in realizing the vision of “shidduchim with dignity and ease” for Lubavitchers worldwide.
For more information or to become involved, contact them at [email protected]