By Yedida Peretz, Ynet
The community council of Jerusalem neighborhood Har Nof recently launched a new workshop for wives and mothers-in-law. Included among the topics on the syllabus are how to avoid being bossy towards your daughter-in-law and maintaining family boundaries.
The idea for the workshop, aimed at haredi women, came from a neighborhood resident who deals in marriage and family counseling. The workshop is intended for older women whose sons are married to younger brides.
Within the workshop framework, the participants learn how to be “good mothers-in-law” and to develop good relationships with their daughters-in-law and their sons. The studies deal with methods for preventing conflict and unnecessary tension with the love of their sons’ life.
The workshop is being put on as part of the activities of the Jerusalem Association of Community Councils and Centers’ project called Time Bank, which is taking place in 13 community centers throughout the city.
In the Har Nof community center, for instance, more than 80 women offer to swap their services such as lessons on how to take care of physically or mentally disabled children. They also hold evening meetings for women only, cooking workshops for the holidays, and trips throughout the country.
The Time Bank activities allow participation in community activities in exchange for time invested on behalf of the participant in place of money. The exchange is done on the basis of the amount of time spent in an activity, and not on the activity’s contents.
For instance, a participant who plays the piano well can offer another member an hour of piano lessons in exchange for an hour of help cleaning the house or an hour of walking the dog.
What about daughter in laws? Although I don’t have any (yet) myself, I have 9 sister-in-laws (KAY’H) & not all of them behave in an appropriate manner towards my parents which upsets us (the siblings) very much. It is not always about the mother in laws, sometimes it is the daughter in law who is not the nice one! They seem to expect so much…………… saying this though, I will say that some of them are amazing and just like siblings, so I guess it’s the luck of the draw!
ohhhh my mother in law needs to go to this one!!!
although i dont think she could ever learn to care and be thoughtful
how? by believing that the relationship is worth not giving up on, by trying to understand each other, by opening up to each other, by allowing yourself to feel vulnerable till you reach a deeper understanding of each other.
have to belief that it could get better
have to allow yourself to be vulnerable
yes, you may get hurt, but one has to try,
and you keep trying.
if you are strong enough in yourself,
you can keep trying
hahahahahahah
How do you teach a mother in law not to be bossy? hahahahaahhahaah
ahhahahahaha
THis is totally funny!
I meant it, good luck!!