As we are nearing Shavuos, allow me to use a Dvar Torah to clarify a point I am trying to make about bochurim and girls not finding their prospective Shidduch.
It says in Gemarah Sanhedrin (page 22) that the task of forming a Shidduch is as difficult as the splitting of the Red Sea.
Did you ever ask yourself what is the connection? Here is an interesting explanation I once heard.
The Red Sea did not split when the brave Nachshon Ben Aminadav jumped in. The water only parted when it reached his nose, when it was an eminent risk to his life. As it says in Tehillim “for water has come up to my soul.”
The same in with a Shidduch, as in the Red Sea.
To reach the goal you might need to “dampen” the Yichus factor. Consider accepting a shidduch that might not be from a specific background. Face reality and come to terms with your “swimsuit.”
You may need to jump in, take the risk and get used to a new environment – this may be what will bring you to the promised land.