ChabadMatch.com, the premier matchmaking site for Lubavitch singles and shadchanim, featuring the largest online database of Lubavitch singles, recently celebrated its 50th engagement — that’s 100 very happy Chabad individuals who are single no longer!
Since its inception, ChabadMatch.com has been connecting Lubavitch singles with Lubavitch matchmakers throughout the world, enabling shadchanim to match singles much more accurately and efficiently.
Engaged singles #99 and #100 have Mrs. Yehudis Abramowitz to thank for connecting them. The Monsey-based matchmaker has found the site to be a valuable tool in helping her find and match individuals based on their ChabadMatch.com profiles. Mrs. Abramowitz visits and browses the site almost daily, conducting research regarding Lubavitch singles, as well as searching for updated and new profiles. While not every match she suggests is a homerun, many of her suggestions are still pursued because they are not too far off base.
Miriam from Crown Heights met her husband through ChabadMatch last year. “What I liked about ChabadMatch is that there are online previews. So I could first look at the profiles and then have the ability to go to a shadchan with suggestions that I already had some interest in pursuing,” she says. Using a shadchan was important to her, but she discovered that shadchanim didn’t always know her well enough to weed out inappropriate matches. ChabadMatch enabled her to do her own weeding and, eventually, selecting, even before going to the shadchan. “After doing some preliminary research and seeing a profile that looked interesting to me, I was able to approach a shadchan to see if it was a viable option and, if it was something to pursue, to help set it up in the appropriate manner through a matchmaker.”
The key to the site’s success in connecting so many singles is the size and diversity of its database. With the conventional dating methods used in the frum community, a single is limited to being offered only other singles whom the shadchan knows personally. Alternatively, the database offers shadchanim a wider variety of singles to present to their clients. One helpful feature that matchmakers find to be very valuable is the ability for shadchanim to type personal notes for themselves on singles’ profiles.
For this reason and others, shadchanim turn to the site to match their singles with others. Rabbi Yonah Avtzon is a Crown Heights-based matchmaker who uses ChabadMatch.com as a tool. “I’ve made hundreds of successful shidduchim, baruch Hashem,” he says, “and I find ChabadMatch to be one of the most useful tools for making Chabad shidduchim today.”
Another Crown Heights-based shadchan, Mrs. Shandel Malka Blasberg, says that she checks and spends time on ChabadMatch almost daily.
ChabadMatch simplifies the shidduch-searching process and helps avoid many of the headaches that typically come with trying to make shidduchim.
It’s not uncommon for parents and singles to become frustrated when a shadchan hasn’t approached them with any offers in a while. A person might wonder whether the shadchan forgot about him, but at the same time he does not want to keep checking in with her for fear of coming across as desperate or overly aggressive. But with ChabadMatch, once your profile is listed on the database, shadchanim can always access it and, if you choose, a limited version of your profile will come up when others conduct profile searches on the site as well.
For many singles, it can be difficult to reach out to shadchanim for help. That’s why Chaim, 23, from South America, submitted an online profile through ChabadMatch. “This way lots of the shadchanim I choose can see my profile, and I don’t have to call them to remind them about me,” he says. “Finding the right shidduch is hard work, and it’s important to use every available option, because you don’t know where the bracha is going to come from. Plus, an online profile makes me feel more comfortable and eliminates a lot of the embarrassment.”
Another benefit of ChabadMatch is time. Let’s face it; the shidduch process can be long and is oftentimes mentally, emotionally and financially draining. Parents and singles can save time and avoid unnecessary effort by conducting limited searches of profiles on the site. This allows users to view descriptions of singles written in their own words, but without names, photos, cities, or references—and to then contact the shadchanim associated with the singles whose profiles interest them. This puts the initiating power in the hands of the parents and singles, while easing the burden on the shadchanim.
“It can sometimes be very difficult to convince one single to go out with another single, but with ChabadMatch, the single and his or her parent have already seen the other person’s profile and expressed an interest. This aspect makes the entire process easier and smoother,” says Mrs. Abramowitz.
Yet another concern to many singles and parents is privacy. With ChabadMatch, you have full control over who sees your profile. You can even limit which shadchanim have access to your profile and how much information is visible to those searching. You can choose to allow parents and singles to see a limited part of your profile, without seeing your name, photo, hometown, references or any information that will reveal your identity.
The matchmaking process works in a variety of ways:
The first is where a shadchan makes a shidduch suggestion based on two profiles that appear to be compatible. The second is where you (the single or parent) conduct a search and see a limited profile that is of interest, and then contact that single’s shadchan. Another scenario is one in which a parent or single sees your profile and contacts your shadchan. Or you can reach out to a shadchan from the site’s shadchan list, who, after getting to know you, sets you up with someone not yet on the site. (Yes, ChabadMatch can be a tool to set couples up even when one or both of the singles is not listed on the site.)
To date, 52 happy couples have resulted from the site, and possibly others who have not yet notified the site’s administrators. The large number of successful matches is proof that the database is a huge success.
Check out: www.ChabadMatch.com and join their Facebook page for updates and featured singles.
this concept is taken from regular dating sites, minus the pictures and including shadchannus. this should be the operating mode everywhere, not just for chabad. a brilliant move, but chabad is also expert at using the internet for good.
Thank you Moshe Raichman for your commitment. This is a true tzedakah!
Is this a Chabad or individual enterprise?
Kol Hakavod
The purpose of the site is for you to take charge of the search. Do not wait for the shadchanim to find the match. Use the site to search possible matches, check references and then go to your chosen shadchan for the young couple to meet. Once the parents of the other side approved, you are in business. Shadchanim are busy people who personally know a limited number of singles. By doing your own homework at the site, you’ve largely expanded your possibilities! That’s the beauty of the site!
You should be actively doing searches on the site to see if there are profiles of interest, this way you don’t have to rely exclusively on Shadchanim to get things started.
Wow, that`s a milestone!! in chabad`s pursuit for mashiach we cannot forget to build the BEIT in the beit chabad. Hatzloche rabe!! everyone should join this mitzva of building our future chabad homes and spread yidichkeit!!!
Suggestion: Spread the word and increase the database. This way it will be easier for shadchanim to find your match.
I’m a parent and my daughter isn’t receiving the attention she deserves from shadchanim. She has a profile. She has met with some of the shadchanim listed on the site and is known in Crown Heights. What am I not doing that I should be doing??
I’m still waiting for my bashert
I’ve had my profile listed on ChabadMatch for a few years and haven’t gotten many suggestions. I think the shadchanim DO need reminders.
What is one supposed to do after signing up?
signing up is the best ‘kli’ any single can make
When most online speed dating sites are failing, this one seems to have taken root. You should continue to have success and hashgacha pratis!
He is a great Shadchan that I am using thanks to the site
Thanks to you, our daughter was able to find an incredible match,and both are so happy. They met across oceans. We are forever indebted to you.
This site was extremely helpful in finding a shiduch for my son. I live in a smaller community and did not know too many shadchanim or leads. After enrolling my son, I studied the profiles of the apropriate age group and language background. Fortunately one profile seemed to match very well. I called to check the references and my chosen shadchan set them up. B”H they have today a beautiful family. In my case ChabadMatch.com was instrumental. I bless its organizer for making available such a wonderful tool!
as soon as you sign in, fill out the questions so your shadchan will get to know you and what you are looking for, from then on all you want to know will be available at your home page
I plan on using the website In the near future.
I have heard Rabbi & Mrs. Raichman speak about their project. They are very discreet. A lot of thought has gone into this process. Yaashir Koach to them!
It’s a big mitzva to help people to find their bashert. Using an internet based database was a brilliant idea! I wish Chabadmatch a lot of success in the future. You are changing the world one couple a time. Kol Hakavod!
One of the nice things on the site is that you can recommend the Shadchanim that are active and helpful. Everyone can see how many times each Shadchan has been recommended and know which ones are worth contacting.
after Chabad Match I finally found how we can use internet to build and not destroy families. Kol hakavod for moishe and Ester Raichman, each match worth a world.
Shlomo Sobel
How exactly does the site work???
Chabadmatch has an amazing database that allows shadchanim to find exactly what someoned is looking for. Kol Hakovad to those responsible!!! It helped me find my shidduch!
it makes an advance…like all new technologies that came in with the electronic age…as the communication it certainly will pop in all communities around all over the world!
smart way to make this old mitzvah in a hiper current form!!
htzlokhe
Chabadmatch has helped me and many of my friends in so many ways! Thank-you!
I’m happy to hear that something like that is going on, we really need to give the tools to the parents of the singles to make things easier in the shiduch process.
Hatzlocho!!!
I know a friend that got engaged through chabadmatch!! I totally recommend singles to use it!
All Chabad singles need to be on the database, this is the kli that helps singles, parents, and Shadchanim alike.