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    16 Quick Ways To Improve Marriage

    The Beis Medrash Women's Circle in Crown Heights collected 16 bits of insight about improving marriage and living better. Full Story

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    Communicate with one another
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    Communicate with one another

    Communication is the key to marriage success – Fact

    queenie
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    queenie

    if you want to be a queen treat your husband like a KING

    good one
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    good one

    the “put down your phone when he comes in” is very important.

    Caveat
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    Caveat

    All of the above wisdom applies, 100%, to basically normal marriages with their typical ups and downs that are within the realm of normalcy. But if there is abuse (physical, verbal, psychological), addiction, adultery or other forms of disloyalty, theft, or the like, one must take action. A spouse experiencing these kinds of issues is often given advice like the above. But such advice is not only useless in such severe instances, but it actually makes the victimized spouse more of a victim. No one wants to have to realize they are in a marriage that’s beyond the realm of… Read more »

    A Great Rabbi Once Said...
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    A Great Rabbi Once Said...

    ● You treat your spouse like you treat G-d, and G-d like you treat your spouse.

    ● When we’re young we develop needs, both physical and emotional. When we “mature” we learn to negate those needs and do without. Then we get married and we commit to fulfilling those negated needs of our spouse. It’s the ultimate eidelkeit.

    what if
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    what if

    I work during the day and my husband stays at home? Does he have to give me supper before he tells me about his day?

    Aliza Horowitz is great
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    Aliza Horowitz is great

    I am being very candid. Aliza really has insight and know-how!

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    I see….

    So if I’m angry, frustrated, in a bad mood, or my spouse was being selfish and a total idiot, I should just communicate all my feelings to him/her?

    A better solution is to work out your hurt feelings and resentment alone or with a close friend and come back to your spouse as a sane person who can have a discussion.

    And no, not everything needs to be communicated.

    Commitment, love, caring, respect, appreciation, admiration and more, are just as important as communication.

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