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“Parents, Hug Your Daughters!”

Lecturer Rabbi Shais Taub pleads with parents of teenage girls to show them love at the dinner of Beis Chaya Mushka in Monsey. Full Story, Video

Video: Rabbi Greenwald Shloshim

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May 17, 2018 10:47 pm

I clicked on link for a 40 min. video please post where the title can be found

bb3
May 17, 2018 11:33 am

I agree with #10, to respect the boundaries, and if they don’t want to be hugged, then don’t. But there are “emotional hugs”, such as when you’re busy, you can just leave them a post-it note (or a card if theres time) saying happy birthday I love you….or whatever. There are many ways of showing love besides the non verbal hug. You can even buy their favorite fruit or vegetable or something which has their favorite color, just to show that you’re thinking of them. its that emotional “hug”. it does make a huge difference. its of course important to… Read more »

To #8
May 17, 2018 11:25 am

Why would you stop hugging your daughters after bas mitzvah? That’s when they need it the most as they try to make sense of of a chaotic world!

Hug all your kids, all the time, for no apparent reason. Teach them taht this is what parents do for their children and guess what? When they grow up and have kids they’ll hug them too!

r732
May 17, 2018 10:45 am

hug your sons and your daughters, joke with them, show them open love like we want from HaShem, and they will love Torah because they will associate it with love and warmth.

Proportion
May 17, 2018 10:32 am

Great points by Rabbi Taub!

Just to point out what may be obvious. Different people express and receive love in different ways.

If your daughter (or son!) are uncomfortable with hugs please respect their boundaries and find ways of expressing love that they can appreciate!

#4 all the more so given #6
May 17, 2018 7:43 am

Rabbi Taub did not quote the maamar or the Rebbe or say a pi chassidus Chabad.

If you hug your daughter till bas mitzvah...
May 17, 2018 12:27 am

and her husband hugs her after the chasuneh…
WHO WILL HUG HER BETWEEN BAS MITZVAH AND CHASUNEH???
Gevalt!
There are SOOOO many of our teenage girls R”L being hugged by the wrong people!!!
STOP
Hug your daughter and your son today and everyday.
Stop the emotional neglect, the abuse and the destroyed lives.
Klal Yisroel has suffered too much already.
it’s time for k’Ish ehad, b’lev echad.
Love your kids with your whole entire heart.

Rav Elyashiv ztz"l
May 16, 2018 10:29 pm

HaRav Elyashiv ztz”l said:
Every bachurah (teenage girl)
Needs a chaver (a boyfriend)
If the father has saichel
He’ll do the job!

Chazak!

Avi Fishoff

[email protected]

Dying or living
May 16, 2018 10:26 pm

The Slonimer Rebbeh the Nesivas Shalom zy”a (who was a Rosh Yeshivah in Lubavitch) asks on the Medrash that questions what Nisayon was harder for Avraham Avinu, to jump into the furnace or “lech lichuh”, how can you compare the two? He explains beautifully that as hard as it is to DIE as a Jew, it can be just as hard to LIVE as a Jew. He says dying is a “Chad paamee” a one time action, But living as a Yid is every minute of your life! That is why the Medrash needed to compare the two of them… Read more »

Hug your sons too
May 16, 2018 9:59 pm

And stop the child abuse, especially the physical abuse which disproportionately affects boys like me, but which girls are almost immune to.

Sincerely,
An abused boy

to #1
May 16, 2018 9:53 pm

Isn’t one of the points of V’atah Tetzaveh the importance of mesiras nefesh even in situations where we have freedom of religion and we are not being discriminated against?

Wow!
May 16, 2018 9:50 pm

Thank you Rabbi Taub! I learn so much from all of your talks.

I agree!
May 16, 2018 9:20 pm

And don’t forget to verbally tell them you love them. Kids really need to hear that.
And please hug your sons too!

What Sicha or Mamaar of our Rebbe is the last paragraph?
May 16, 2018 9:07 pm

“Taub also spoke about the difference between Pesach and Shavuos as two kinds of mesiras nefesh. “Pesach is being ready to die as a Jew. Shavuos is being ready to live as a Jew,” said Taub. “Today, especially in the way we talk to our youth, the emphasis must be on Shavuos, living as a Jew.””

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