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Thursday, 27 Adar I, 5784
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Do’s & Don’ts of Marriage Advice

Rabbi Shais Taub will share some Dos and Don’ts from his experiences as a rabbi and relationship expert on helping someone work through marriage issues. Full Story

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The people in the role of mashpia...
May 22, 2017 12:27 pm

…often need more than an invitation. There are some who don’t see that they are deficient on this topic! I don’t know the answer, other than making some kind of certification/hechsher for mashpiim who specifically work with couples on shalom bayis. One cannot earn that “hechsher” without WILLINGLY participating in this kind of workshop/training. Even this kind of system would not be perfect, since nepotism and privilege-due-to-yichus carry a lot of weight in this community. Maybe the only answer is for couples to be wiser “consumers.” Let’s educate couples to become discerning about when they are getting appropriate advice, or… Read more »

what about for people with the 3 A's?
May 22, 2017 10:27 am

I am an addict and need to know how to help my marriage under these circumstances as many people understand the pain is difficult to deal with for my wife esspecially.
Is this specifically not for people who are dealing with addiction in their marriages?

Devora Krasnianski, organizer of this event
May 22, 2017 9:38 am

We did arrange for a workshop for Rabbonim, Rebbetzins, mashpiim, mashpios, kallah and chassan teachers. That one was dedicated specifically about Domestic Abuse. For anyone in that role who would like the recording and related resources, pleaes email [email protected]

This workshop with Rabbi Taub will be helpful for anyone to whom people confide about any marriage issues – from friends and family through spiritual leaders. Which is just about anyone, really. This is an important topic relevant to everyone.

Watch/Listen Remotely Online
May 22, 2017 9:17 am

Could you please organize a link for those of us that cannot attend to watch/listen online? Please post link.

an anonynous opinion(From someone who has been married for decades)n
May 22, 2017 4:03 am

do not wait to go for help for many years- ĥelp is out there-just find out and best is to go together so that both sides of the story can be heard-this is not the shtetl where older people advised that he will be better-he will change etc.These things dont happen by themselves AND MEANWHILE THE CHILDREN ARE SUFFERING EVEN IF YOU DONT REALIZE(Or the children to come and if they see spousal abuse this leads to abuse among the children-be realistic and do not go for help-run-run-run

Who should hear this lecture the most
May 22, 2017 12:55 am

The main people that must hear this lecture are the Rabonim AND people in community that are officially working with couples. Without even realizing it is easy to mislead and drain already exhausted people. Please do make sure they do. May be send it to them in a printed form as a respectful request from people.

There needs to be a session like this SPECIALLY for rabbis and mashpiim
May 21, 2017 9:49 pm

One would think this is not necessary, but r”l it is! They don’t teach this in semichah programs. They don’t teach it at seminary. There are a lot of well-meaning (I hope!) rabbis and mashpiim who are doing far more harm than good, by using the “one size fits all” approach: that is, giving advice appropriate for healthy normal marriages going through a rough patch (good!) to couples where one or more of the “Three A’s” are going on. For example, when you tell an abused wife to be bitul to her husband and, say, give her paycheck to her… Read more »

can I watch online?
May 21, 2017 8:47 pm

will this be broadcast online? Would love to hear but I am not in NY.

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