By COLlive reporter
“One-third of the entrepreneurs who approach us for advice are women,” says Rabbi Yehoshua Werde, director of Crown Heights Young Entrepreneurs, a full-service, business resource center tailored to the unique needs of the Crown Heights Jewish Community.
Women have many of the same, yet different requirements when starting a business,” says Rabbi Werde. “We created the ‘Getting Ahead,’ event to address the specific issues women face when entering the workforce.”
Moderated by Mrs. Chaya Abelsky, panel speakers included Mrs. Julie Gniwisch, President of Delmar Jewelers, Mrs. Devorah Halberstam, Director of Government Services at the Jewish Children’s Museum, Mrs. Malka Waronker, Associate Counsel at Consolidated Edison, and Devoree Axelrod, General Manager at AJ Madison.
It takes confidence and bravado to move up the corporate ladder or bring a business to the next level of financial success. Hearing insights and stories of Lubavitch women who have made it, so to speak, in their respective fields, can offer insight and inspiration to Chabad women who are wondering how they can get ahead.
Mrs. Abelsky, an executive coach, started the evening with a story of a man collecting money from passersby. One day he decided to open the trunk he had sat on while begging for 20 years. The trunk was filled with treasure. “The message is that he was sitting on his own wealth,” says Mrs. Abelsky.
The first panelist to share her career journey was Mrs. Axelrod, who started at AJ Madison in the customer service department ten years ago. Mrs. Axelrod noticed customer calls were in the hold queue for 30 to 40 minutes—longer than any customer wanted to wait when they had dialed the operator. Reducing the wait time for callers was Mrs. Axelrod’s first initiative.
“When I first started I saw there was little infrastructure in the company,” says Mrs. Axelrod. “I wasn’t brought in a management role, but I realized there were some quick, small changes I could implement that would make a big difference.”
One concept that has helped Mrs. Axelrod navigate tough work situations is “Success is the only option.” When a longtime vendor was not able to ship to a large customer with many stadiums in California, she researched a different option, offering the customer a full refund if they did not like the new equipment. The risk paid off, and the company was able to retain the client. Mrs. Axelrod encourages entrepreneurs to speak to people for advice, yet follow your gut. On the management side, she advises leaders to be clear about what they expect from their employees.
“I’m proud and thankful for the opportunity I’ve had to grow with the company,” says Mrs. Axelrod, who joined AJ Madison when she was single. She has since not only married, but had children and has managed to balance her career with her family responsibilities by staying “very organized.”
Becoming a lawyer was a lifelong dream for Mrs. Waronker, who came to New York from South Africa for law school. Now she’s a proud wife and mother of six children who has been able to climb the corporate ladder by standing firm and proud in her Lubavitch lifestyle and values. Her colleagues introduce her as the “mother of six kids” and look at her if she has “three heads,” but Mrs. Waronker said her differences work to her advantage.
“Every aspect of my life is filled with G-dliness and holiness. They do see me as a religious women with a large family, but most corporations are pushing for diversity.” There is no need in Mrs. Waronker’s experience to be shy about being frum or being a woman. In fact people respect that she has “interests outside the corporate doctrine.”
Mrs. Waronker’s message: “Have a goal and work backwards to do what it will take to reach that goal. There is no easy road.”
Mrs. Halberstam’s life changed irrevocably March 1, 1994 when her son Ari was murdered in a terror attack on the Brooklyn Bridge.
“From the moment Ari was shot, there was a strength that rose up within me that nothing in this world could stop,” says Mrs. Halberstam, who became an expert on terrorism in her quest to ensure justice was served in her son’s court case. She lobbied to have a sign placed on the bridge in Ari’s memory. She also raised $35 million and served as a government liaison to build the Jewish Children’s Museum in Crown Heights.
“I’m focused on where I’m going and what I want to accomplish. I love my people, I love being a Jew, I love being a woman. I feel I have to stand up and make a difference,” she adds. “You maybe surprised what one person can do in changing the world.”
Her main goal after her son’s death was to get the government to acknowledge the truth that Ari’s murder was a terrorist act. “I was raised n a home where my father only spoke emes,” says Mrs. Halberstam. “People have to search for truth, but that’s all I saw.”
At first Mrs. Halberstam would stand on line for hours to speak with government officials who saw her only as a grieving Jewish mother. Within a year she was invited to an event at the mayor’s mansion, where she was able to negotiate a city contract for $7.5 million for the museum. 9/11 and the mayoral election brought challenges in finalizing the contract for the museum to receive the grant money.
Mrs. Halberstam raced around the city by cab to get her contract registered before Mayor Bloomberg took office January 1, 2002. She got the city controller’s signature just in time. At his inaugural speech Bloomberg announced that any contracts that were not registered would not receive the grant money.
“Wait until tomorrow and you might miss the boat,” Mrs. Halberstam cautions.
Her persistence in changing the ruling from murder to terrorism paid off as well. Ari’s was the only case ever changed by the Justice Department before or since. “It took a tedious long time,” she says. “I never did give up. If you want to do something, just believe in yourself, and in G-d, and I promise you will accomplish it.”
Mrs. Gniwisch was a kindergarten teacher when she and her husband took out a loan to help an old friend save his business. They lent the man $25,000 to rejuvenate his jewelry business. The Gniwisches had six kids in school at the time, but were moved to help a fellow Jew. Three months later, the business failed. The man was unable to pay back the money so he sent the jewelry to Montreal. Mrs. Gniwish traveled around selling the merchandise. Mrs. Gniwish never did recoup the money from that transaction, but discovered her talent for designing and selling jewelry.
“Most well-to-do businesses started by chance—meeting a person at a certain time, having lunch, just being in a certain place, the Aibishter takes you by the hand and leads you to where you need to be,” says Mrs. Gniwisch.
A defining moment for the business was when she and her husband had traveled from their home in Montreal to New York to find a special pearl supplier. “He didn’t want to sell to me because I wasn’t important enough,” says Mrs. Gniwisch. She told her husband they should go to Japan – where the pearls were sourced. “I was chutzpah’dik,” Mrs. Gniwisch says. “I walked into the Japanese supplier and said, ‘I know nothing about pearls, but I want you to teach me because I am going to be your biggest client.'” And she did become the supplier’s biggest customer.
Mrs. Gniwisch gives tzedaka generously. She has seen with her own eyes that whatever she gives, she gets back even more in myriad ways. In business over 40 years she has learned to focus on the positive when things get tough. “The customer is always right, but there are times you need to put your foot down, take your losses and smile.”
Mrs. Gniwisch and her husband both survived the Holocaust, so family is paramount. “Children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren,” says Mrs. Gniwisch. “That’s what we pray for.”
Questions from the audience addressed how to compete in a man’s world, how to start a business without capital, and then take it to the next level.
Mrs. Abelsky wrapped up the night with inspiration. “No matter what, you have the koach to get ahead.”
Where in Shulchan Aurich (precise page and section in halacha so I can look it up for myself, please) does it say that EXACTLY what you said. “Applies to every good act we do at all times and in every way.”?
I do not believe it says that, unless you can show the proof that it does.
Truly inspirational!
May Hashem grant you to see the fruits of your labour-and may you be the recipient of the same goodness that you bring to the world
Yogatee velo motzosee, al ta’amin. Lo yogatee u’motzosee, al ta’amin. Yogatee u’motzosee, ta’amin. Applies to every good act we do at all times and in every way.
To #15, I have tried everything I can think of and have spent years asking for advice as well as trying many different things on my own. I have no idea what other direction H-sh-m could possibly want me to go in. But thanks for the bracha, and may you be blessed with health wealth and all good things and the wisdom to use them as H-sh-m wants us to. To #16, I hope your’s and your husbands situation gets much better, such that you look back on this time and it looks like nothing more than a bad dream.… Read more »
From the Rebbe: The primary role of a married bas Yisroel is to be a proper akeres ha’bayis, i.e. running the house in general and especially raising her children. This also fits with what it says, “the entire glory of a princess is within.” It was with difficulty that they permitted her to be involved in outside activities, when this involves chinuch of Jewish children, since women have a special motherly feeling for children, and therefore their influence is greater and deeper. Or, in order to exempt the husband (who is diligently learning Torah) from parnasa concerns, or if the… Read more »
The lady taking care of a 2 year old with pregnancy blahs while picking up a sick child from school to come home to a house that needs cleaning and supper needing to be made and wondering if she will have time to say even a short part of her morning brochos.
I agree with you 100 percent. I am Doctor myself , but on salary I dont consider myself a business person theses are jut few educated ladies fro the community. Big deal.
the only one of the women that i know personally is julie gniwisch. for anyone who thinks that having a business is for self indulgence, go meet julie. you have no idea, at all, how many mosdos and shluchim DEPEND Jule and her husband. their work is for one purpose only – to help the Rebbe’s shluchim. THAT’S ALL!!!
that is an inspiration.
You failed to see an inspiration or a role model for a eishet Chayil?????
I really see that these women from the panel succeeded in their jobs and this is great for them Only 1 succeeded in business the other 3 as employers I failed to see an inspiration or a role model for a eichet chayil My wife work as a teacher , she started to work after the kids grew up and this money comes to really make a difference in our family lives style. .BH Hashem provides the Parnasa to the family one way another For working women whose children are raised by a non Jewish nanny . It’s not an… Read more »
Listen everyone Hashem has the purpose for each of us, Rebbe never judged anyone, so let us be like him, and instead of jealousy let us focus on our Chinuch and give tools to our children girls and boys to come out of seminary and Smicha with Bachelors, then they do not need to go to secular world. Let us help them financially to start their business to pursue their dreams, then they will not leave our religious worlds. We need to do what Rebbe would do if He would be here, help each other. Where are financial people when… Read more »
to #13: women outside of home can do a shlichus only! and women in big Chabad community like Crown heights must to teach their children! because if not – all the generation of Chabad people will be business women, rock singers and teens in “Chocolate” in the nights together girls and boys.
LIKE UNJEWS!!
Some really interesting opinions are coming out here! Maybe people should think before they write! I think Eshes Chayil is the summary of the ideal women’s role. Go read it! Nice too see this event.
That’s the dumbest comment I’ve read in months. Hashem gives us the oppurtunities but it’s up to us what to do with them. Not EVERYTHING is planed out. Work hard, appreciate the world, and make a living and stop making excuses. Please don’t just sit around and be like “help, hashem wants me to be poor. This is what hashem had planned for me.” UM, NO. There are lots of oppurtunities out there! Go get ’em and make yourself proud! 😀
I was at the event and would have loved to see others as well. Mrs Abelsky moderated the evening pointing out key points that can be relevant for a woman in the workspace or as the Akeres habayis. Each of the women on the panel were so powerful with excellent points. Chye your service for us in crown heights is so purposeful. Thank you. I have gone on to reach out and get help from all the women involved on the panel and the moderator. I’ve made changes in how I run myself and my home.
I know exactly what ur talking about .
for years my husband goes into small companies , works like an animal , he makes them really grow into huge successful business and when they don’t need him anymore they toss him , keeping huge accounts that he breaks into and nothing for us! we don’t have any money to start our own business . We just have no mazel.
You are perhaps not getting Hashem’s message that you are not in the place that He wants you.
May Hashem bless you by pointing you in the direction He wants you to go, so that your ability to work hard will produce fruitful results and you will have much nachos from your efforts.
The hard work Devorah put and puts in (re. millions of dollars) for all humanity, yidden, education, values and neighborhood (re. childrens museum) is indescribable and is a wonderful and awesome memory for Ari A”H
Oy #5, so angry, so harshly critical. Women don’t have to have careers outside the home. But often they support their husbands learning as well. Many women “need” to work together with their husbands to make ends meet!
I can’t believe that we’re encouraging more women to enter the corporate world.
I have for many years, tried many different things to succeed and no matter how much I have put my blood sweat and tears into something, it never worked out. In many cases it failed in an unnatural way (for example I recently worked for someone for a short time, who was selling things on Ebay. He gave me specific instructions, how to upload pictures of items and list them, after which he himself approved of them and said I did everything right. BUT…while he was selling things he listed and was selling the same items when listed by someone… Read more »
Julie’s name really suits her. She is in the jewel business. Her business and everything she does is a beautiful, elegant piece of art. A few times I attended her events for Week of the Jewish Women. She is an amazing organizer. I understand that for years she headed a theater group of women. Everything in Montreal. She is Jewel.
Her and her husband’s charitable act laid the foundation for their success.
She see the hand of Hashem in her success.
She is a role model.
CHYE does so much for our community. They truly do a good job in encouraging and assisting people who want to go into business and live a viable future.
We women have a treasure called feminism!!!! We have what the secular world wants!!! I live on shlichus in an area that’s mostly secular and i have to say that the wealthy corporate people out here are yearning to settle down and have a family!! We women are the only ones who have this most precious treasure of experiencing a taste of hashems creation by being His partner in creating children bh and raising them! May HaShem bless all women with this most fascinating career that the whole world yearns to have!!
Interesting to see that only one of them actually has to do with business. All other 3 work for companies & make a salary. The idea of business is that you have to invest $ to make $. To climb the corporate ladder is a whole dif ball game. Not sure why they’re all on the same panel. And there are many Lubavitcher woman who run many dif business. And to # 4 you have some boiled energy that needs to be let out. Pleas talk to a woman you respect. I don’t want to see your kids be confused… Read more »
The woman’s role is Rebetzin, that personal touch and listening sympathetic ear behind the scenes that complements the Ravs role and is no less important. A man without his wife would not mekarev half the people… Think about it. It is the less glamorous and appreciated role in the galus world but perhaps even more vital. For more info and to get a sense of the woman’s role, which is not to become a man btw, see el nshei ubnos yisrael. Good luck with all!
You are obviously suffering from your own insecurities coupled with a complete ignorance of the special place women hold in our religion. I am assuming that since you are reading this site you have heard of the Lubavitch Rebbe. Why don’t you go and read what he had to say about this issue and hopefully salve your sore and ignorant heart.
Can someone please answer me, why it ok and laudable for women to “climb the corporate ladder” in the secular business world, but it is not alright for women to become deciders of Halacha and leaders in the Jewish religious world?
Are we sending a message to young religious women that the secular world offers more opportunities for success than the religious world?
Interesting, enlightening and straight forward. Positive and informative. I liked reading this. Even if you’re not going into business it was a worthwhile event. Encouraging and upbeat!
To all the ladies for giving inspiration and koach to other women. Nothing is impossible if you have the right determination and create a proper keilim for Hashem’s brochas.
beautiful and impressive