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What is the Role of Husband

While secular influences have crept into our view of marriage, Rabbi Manis Friedman will set the record straight on the Torah-true view of marriage and a man’s role as a husband. Full Story

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February 17, 2014 8:19 am

No the underlying issue is not trust. You can not build trust with a person that is not stable. Until they show that they can be stable. Those that trust those that can’t be trusted get themselves messed over (from experience).

to#20
February 13, 2014 8:57 pm

There must be a underlying reason why you asked that.

To #10 and #14
February 13, 2014 8:37 pm

The underlying issue in such a situation is trust in the relationship. Different people deal with trust issues in different ways, some better or worse than others. The solution is to focus on the underlying trust issues. When you do, you won’t have to be concerned with how well or not your spouse handles a lack of trust. Are you taking your share of the responsibility for the trust issues in your relationship? Seemingly not. It looks like you are ignoring the real issue and placing blame only on someone else. Trust is a two-way street.

Women need to understand their roles too!
February 13, 2014 4:00 pm

Today many woman in our community want to find their fulfillment outside the home.

Why?

They want a career, they are ambitious, and want to succeed and accomplish which is fine but why are you saying the men are off track???

Rabbi Friedman is fantastic
February 13, 2014 2:32 pm

Rabbi Friedman is a gem and we in Lubavitch are fortunate to have him. His courses are amazing and beneficial, no matter how long you have been married. I believe that every Chosson and Kallah should be required to participate in one of his courses, just as they must take Chosson/Kallah classes. So much unecessary tension can be avoided.

To 17 - I'm number 9 and 14 and want to clarify.
February 13, 2014 11:33 am

I agree yes I’m sure Rabbi Manis Friedman has much to offer – but I’m talking about the person who won’t even attend the class because of their own issues and how to get them to be willing to get out of denial and make progress!!! So they can get to the point of being willing to learn. I’m not talking about the person who wants to work on themselves and wants to learn and is attending the class. I’m talking about the person who is locked in their self created misery…pretending to be victim when they’re the one’s who… Read more »

to #9 and #14
February 13, 2014 9:29 am

The whole point of RFs seminars are to bring out the emes about relationships – from Torah – with no influence from modern phsycology, which, at best is a work in progress.
Torah and chassidus has the emes and that is what RMF is sharing in his amazing way.

To number 14
February 13, 2014 8:45 am

Thank you for appreciating my share! In most extreme cases normal therapists will tell you to divorce (especially addiction therapists.) For all their methods did not work. We have gone to individual and couple therapy both addiction and regular therapists. We found something working for us now that is a different form a bit out of the box if you are interested I can email you more details. And by the way we were separate for a few months too in a divorce process, I’m happy to share more details one on one if I can suggest someone that is… Read more »

לכו על זה
February 13, 2014 8:05 am

היה שווה להתחתן רק כדי לשמוע את הקורס
תודה לך הרב מאניס

Thank you #10
February 13, 2014 7:41 am

For bringing to light issues so many of us deal with and almost no one in the Chabad community understands. Kallah teachers, chosson teachers, ravs all miss the boat on dealing with this and in their ignorance say it’s all up to the wife, and even blame the wife for the marriage problems. WE DESPERATELY NEED RAVS, MASHPIAHS, and CHOSSON AND KALLAH TEACHERS TRAINED TO BE AWARE THAT THESE ISSUES ARE MORE AND MORE COMMON AND PEOPLE ARE SUFFERING AND SUFFOCATING IN MARRIAGES WITH NARCISSISTIC, ADHD, AND ADDICTED PARTNERS WITH NOWHERE TO GO IN THE CHABAD COMMUNITY. It’s even rare… Read more »

To 12
February 13, 2014 1:08 am

Although it’s predetermined by Gd, you can assist your mazal or chas vey shalom the opposite

to # 7
February 12, 2014 9:43 pm

your parnassa is pre-decided at the beg of every year by Hashem. and women have been helping with parnassa throughout history. i know many people without degrees doing a lot better than those with!

Awesome course
February 12, 2014 8:26 pm

R. Freidman has an amazing way of inspiring everyone – no matter if you are newlywed or 30 years married – this course is true guidance and inspiration – highly recommend it -!!!!

To number 9
February 12, 2014 8:14 pm

I read it before I got married and shared it with him too, during our dates to learn about each other. And guess what with the best therapy out there or the best ideas, it doesn’t help for real issues. Real issues require strategies that don’t depend on just compliments. One needs to also understand how to set bounderies, if and when they are necessary – unless one does not care how they are treated. I would recommend the ideas in the book to use to be used as a positive reinforcement when the right things are done. But sometimes… Read more »

communication
February 12, 2014 7:26 pm

There is a great book called the 5 love languages. It is clean and I think every young couple should read it before they get married. I think it would prevent a lot of heartache.

to 4
February 12, 2014 6:49 pm

and occasionally buy us chocolate

women are working b/c
February 12, 2014 6:49 pm

men don’t have education so they can’t provide ENOUGH to support the fam..
so now women have to take care of the family and help support it
it’s really tough times

Nechama
February 12, 2014 6:08 pm

To #3
So why are women working?
Role reversal

Previous teleseminars
February 12, 2014 4:28 pm

Is there any way to hear the previous courses? Is there a recording? Or it’s a paid-for class?

to#3
February 12, 2014 2:58 pm

Is that all? That’s seems pretty easy.

role of husband
February 12, 2014 2:32 pm

to provide food on the table-aka parnassa

We need this.
February 12, 2014 12:32 pm

Direction is sorely lacking nowadays. Thank you Manis for inspiring and guiding my children!

amazing!!
February 12, 2014 10:28 am

i recommend every couple sign up- no matter how long youre married for and no matter what level your at!

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