Everyone needs a mashpia; a mentor to consult with on marital issues, says Mrs. Chana Epstein, a veteran educator and a marriage counselor in Crown Heights.
In a new webinar titled “Woman to Woman Part II,” she speaks about the need to have “someone you rely on, and only one person that you share your sholom bayis with,” saying that “this is mandatory for every marriage.”
The class is part of the Beyond Kallah Classes series from Taharas Hamishpacha International / Mikvah.org, aimed to educate and empower Jewish women in their relationships at home.
Geared toward the newly married, Beyond Kallah Classes allows them the opportunity to expand and build on the basic knowledge they acquired as a Kallah, in Kallah Class.
The webinars and sessions feature an experienced cast of lecturers, that will expound on topics ranging from marriage and sholom bayis, to psychology, women’s health and more.
Although geared to the young married woman, this talk may be enjoyed by any spouse seeking to improve their relationship. In this class, Mrs. Epstein talks personally and openly, woman to woman.
Please note that although a family member would not be an appropriate moshpia, a respected friend can be asked to do this. It is a serious responsibility. If you have any further questions regarding this please do call or email me, Chana Epstein
That was meant as a response to # 5 got the numbers confused
To number 13 I’m so sorry if I sounded flippant . Baruch Hashem I am grateful to All Hashems Brochos . I just found the title so opposite of what is the strength that we built our marriage on keeping our marriage private . As a young married when I didn’t know how to communicate as well and found myself in a whole new world . I wrote to the Rebbe and turned to the Rebbes letters for guidance . One amazing one I saw was . Show your husband how much you appreciate him for how hard he’s working… Read more »
thank you so much for this valuable talk!!
” Why should there be Sholom Bahia issues in a marriage ?”???????????????? With all due respect, I cannot believe that a person, in tune with their community and with life, and is living and breathing can ask a question that “naive” (trying to be a lady)!!!!!!! This person, cannot tell if it is a man or a woman, is wearing blinders and living in a world that includes on the two of them. She admits she did not watch the video, therefore she gave away her secret to a happy marriage……DO NOT LISTEN, JUST WRITE UP They are happy because… Read more »
Very interesting!!!
The Rebbe spoke about having a mashpia — this is nothing earth shattering. Rather, she brings up the very important point that if someone HAS a question within her marriage, it should ONLY be discussed with a mashpia and NOT friends or facebook forums. Thank you for the talk Mrs. Epstein and mikvah.org — I hope to see more of this!
Most unfortunately, the title of this talk is misleading. Certainly, healthy, happy marriages have no need of a third party or ‘mentor’, the talk actually suggests that those who may be having difficulty in their marriage should find a qualified mentor to talk to for guidance, and everyone should avoid speaking to ‘friends’ and those not qualified. It is a great talk, please take the time to listen and enjoy.
Mrs Chana Epstein got a blessing from the Rebbe to give marriage advice.
Thank you for those who are viewing the video – your comments are helpful. Please be reminded you can email me or call me if you wish to go over an issue – i do not charge any fee. Chana Epstein
I agree with you. If, G-d forbid, we were having a problem in our marriage, then we would go for counseling. But I have a mashpia I speak to regularly and she helps me and guides me to see what I’m missing. Yes, I have friends I can complain to about the little things. Sometimes that’s all you need.
More often than not, bringing a third party into such an intimate relationship would encourage feelings of distrust and resentment. Very clear parameters would need to be set- something akin to a marriage therapist maybe.
You are lucky that Hashem has given you an avoda with “easier” shalom bayis. Every one has a different area of avoda which may be harder. Your comment “very strange”
makes me think about people who are satisfied but don’t notice that they have a brocha and are completely unaware of the rest of the world who may not have it as easy in (whatever) that aspect.
If you have a mentor it will encourage you to go running every time you have a little argument whereas you know your husband best and with a bit of seichel could get past it instead of making it into a whole big deal. Obviously i am not talking about a couple who are having more frequent or serious communication problems and other sholom bayis issues….but to say ‘every’ couple that is a bit much…
Thank you! A necessary and helpful class. I appreciate both the honesty and openness of the speaker. Good points. Important topic.
But who is qualified to mentor that will mentor without charging a fortune.
Sadly she doesn’t understand what a great marriage is . Why should there be Sholom Bahia issues in a marriage ? I am B”H
Married for 20 years and we are best friends . One if our greatest strengths is that we speak to each other and not others about our marriage . I didn’t watch the video . Just read the title and write up . Hatzlacha and brocha to all .
Moshiach now !