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‘Stay Away From Toxic Thinking’

Watch now: Marriage educator Chana Epstein argues that the secret to a good marriage isn't only "communication." Full Story, Video

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Chana Epstein responding
November 7, 2013 4:46 pm

It is very encouraging to read these wonderful comments and suggestions, thank you so much. I did want to respond more to Two Points, is there a way to do that privately through email? thank you all again for wanting more as this is a brocha i received from the Rebbe and thanks to Mikvah.org the vehicle to fulfill it.

#27
October 16, 2013 8:43 pm

great idea about making our spouses laugh, they have so much pressure at work-great idea!

Big Admirerer
October 13, 2013 2:14 pm

Your notion of communicating good thoughts (not words) is wonderous,

In another matter, I always make it my number one priority to make my spouse laugh and make sure that my spouse feels safe and comfortable.

londoner
October 13, 2013 8:19 am

LOVE HER!!!!

a believer
October 13, 2013 5:23 am

Chana said it as it is!
If you are married or want to be married, listen to this clip and follow her advice, you’ll be happily married your whole life.

DOES ANY ONE HAVE ADVISE FOR HUSBANDS
October 13, 2013 11:33 am

THAT HAVE CHEMICAL IMBALANCE OR ASPERGERS.WE DO HAVE PEOPLE HERE WITH THESE THINGS,IS DOES HAPPENED THEY THINK THEY ARE FINE,IT JUST THE REST OF THE WORLD,NOT THEM,WE NEED TO FIND SOLUTIONS WITH THESE THINGS,IS MORE COMMON THAN YOU THINK,WE WOULD LOVE TO HEAR WHAT CAN BE DONE

Two points
October 13, 2013 10:02 am

This was an excellent, informative video which I believe every married woman who reads COL should not miss. I want to make two points: 1) It has become popular for couples to post everything they do on Facebook for all their friends to see. Every night out to dinner (with close-up shots of the food), every trip, every gift, every moment. This is destructive in two ways: a) It takes away from the intimacy of the relationship, which, instead of being something personal, becomes a public affair, which ultimately does irreparable damage to the marriage. b) It hurts friend’s relationships… Read more »

Mrs Epstien
October 13, 2013 3:26 am

You are a breath of fresh air!

Thank you
October 13, 2013 12:13 am

Really beautiful to hear

Well Said....
October 13, 2013 12:05 am

I enjoyed the video. Especially the example you gave about marriage being compared to an egg – just treat it carefully so it won’t crack, and even if it does, all is not lost, it can be scrambled 🙂

happy times
October 12, 2013 11:46 pm

incredible stuff!! so inspiring and on target

happy times
October 12, 2013 11:35 pm

incredible stuff!! so inspiring and on target

To#15&16
October 11, 2013 2:03 pm

Honestly that’s the problem, you shouldn’t be talking about marriage problems online. Period.

to #11
October 11, 2013 1:47 pm

You are so right, I used to be a part of an online forum for women, and it truly was a toxic environment, when it came to marriage topics. And those marriage discussions are too hard not to open when you see them on the front page.

A former online forum member
October 11, 2013 1:01 pm

So true #11.
In other words, women- if you value the sanctity of your marriage, stay away or GET OFF the online forums. Husbands- if youve noticed your wife is having issues with your marriage – try to find the root… And help her have the strength to de-activate her account. Your shalom bayis and happiness will increase the by leaps and bounds.

To#11
October 11, 2013 12:10 pm

What do you mean strategize? People can’t be that gullible can they.

to number 12
October 11, 2013 11:46 am

on torah cafe or right here on this page

where can i watch the video?
October 11, 2013 11:07 am

Please advise

Keep away from complainers on the Internet & IRL!
October 11, 2013 7:17 am

Some web sites post very negative “discussions” about their husbands & it’s contagious. Young women read them & get dissatisfied with their own husbands & start to see negativity. Men ARE from Mars (some of the time) but it doesn’t have to cause problems, you just strategize – women are very smart!! But when a group of whiners feed off each other, it is very easy to join in & once that seed of disatisfaction sets in, it’s hard to detach & look positively.

Chana Epstein is a very smart lady. This must have been a great seminar!

so nice
October 11, 2013 6:49 am

good 2hear inspiring words!!keep it coming!!!!!

Thank you
October 10, 2013 11:59 pm

Mrs Epstein- much needed and appreciated

wow!
October 10, 2013 10:21 pm

No words to express how refreshing this was too hear . Such good and true advice ..words of wisdom.
Is there a transcript of the letter she is reading . Its a shulchan aruch of marriage!. It took me 10 years to realize so much of this and I have so much to learn…thank you so much

to #6
October 10, 2013 9:38 pm

Well, whether he was being serious or not, I think his idea is brilliant! I love when my husband does that for me, I like i better than diamonds!

Ariel
October 10, 2013 3:34 pm

#1 wasn’t being serious -_-

to #1
October 10, 2013 11:50 am

No, just buy her chocolate 24 hours. Like, schmerling chocolate. Some women like it better than jewelry. And then don’t comment when she complains about her weight. Take it from a woman :).

chocolate may not solve all issues but it does a pretty good job.

On a serious note, I think these lectures are a great idea. And live broadcast is even better.

Not a Crown Heights Resident
October 10, 2013 11:25 am

I believe Mrs. Chana Epstien lives in the 5 towns (Cedarhurst) not Crown Heights.

to Avi #1
October 10, 2013 9:42 am

LOL:)

will it be recorded
October 10, 2013 1:25 am

if we can’t see it at that time?

Avi
October 10, 2013 12:12 am

BS”D just take your wife to 24 hour chocolate for a weekly date and your problems are all solved

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