Jan 31, 2013
Catching On "Controlling" Issues
A Crown Heights organization will advise bochurim and yungeleit to identify controlling behavior from women during dating or marriage.
Press release from Adai Ad Institute:
The Adai Ad Institute, co-founded by Moshe and Faigie Rubashkin and Devora Krasnianski, was established to provide programming and education to strengthen marriages and ease the Shidduchim process.
They listen to really understand the concerns of those involved in shiduchim and address the underlying issues, through education, awareness and advocacy.
Beginning with its signature 'First Points' course, the Adai Ad Institute continues to grow with more workshops and other Shidduchim and marriage related services in the future.
As they hear about more issues related to marriages, Adai Ad works to address those too. Unfortunately Domestic Abuse is a problem in our community too. And education and awareness can prevent some cases.
This past month they presented a workshop for single and young married women about Recognizing the Behaviors and Attitudes of Controlling Men - and what you can do to deter them.
In that workshop, Mrs. Devorah Levin, LMHC described the profile and some of the tactics of abusive men and spoke of the secret terror, distress, and confusion of wives who live with a man who controls, manipulates or abuses them. She explained various warning signals of potentially controlling relationships that may surface during the dating process or early in marriage.
An event special for bochurim and young married men will take place on Sunday, February 10 (30 Shevat) at 8:00 PM, on recognizing potentially controlling behaviors an attitudes during dating and early marriage.
Dovid Kohn, LCSW, CASAC will present a similar workshop for men about Recognizing potentially controlling behaviors and attitudes during dating and early marriage.
Kohn, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Addictions Counselor, is a Clinical Supervisor at The Safe Foundation, Inc.
Domestic Abuse, whether emotional, physical or otherwise, is unfortunately a reality for men as well. The abuse can take many forms of power and control, including using intimidation, isolation, threats, coercion, putting the other spouse down, and other violence which can make them feel petrified in their own home. And of course, this negatively affects the children too.
Sometimes, the warning signs are there at the very beginning, but they are not understood or they are minimized or ignored or excused. They may even be read as care and concern which masks the underlying problematic understandings of a healthy marriage.
Education and awareness of these behaviors and attitudes which sometimes can be detected early is an important tool for daters.
Rabbi Levi Garelik, a posek in Crown Heights who deals with unfortunately troubled marriages, strongly encourages young men to learn about the devastation of domestic abuse and how to prevent it.
This event will be held at the Rubashkin residence at 1349 President Street. This session is relevant to bochurim, young married men and those who want to learn more so that they can be a support to someone who is in this situation. Suggested donation $5.
To find out more, visit adaiad.org