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Pesach Help: Boys and Girls

From the COLlive Inbox: My boys and girls are back from Yeshiva and school. You'd expect them to lend a hand and help out with all the Pesach preparations. Well, not this year. Full Story

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WELL EXCUSE ME!!!!!!!!!
March 29, 2010 8:00 am

WE GIRLS HELP AAT LEAASST A BAJJILION TIMES MORE THAN THE BOYS

simple
March 27, 2010 4:15 pm

speak to the schools.

1 paragraph
March 26, 2010 5:52 am

and so many comments

to #123
March 26, 2010 5:18 am

i am # 107 raed my comment and the tell me if you are right.
oh better yet dont spend time online but GO HELP FOR PESACH!!!!!!!

111
March 26, 2010 2:47 am

Even after the Jews left they had plenty of work to do till proper freedom!

No complaints from this Mom
March 25, 2010 2:30 pm

I would like to compliment the Bais Rivka Seminary, the Bais Rivka High School, and the Lubavitch Meisivta of Chicago, the Miami Zal and the Zal in Detroit for being mechanech my children to be the perfect Pesach helpers and cleaners for my home and for Chabad. They do a great job, and always with a smile.

we R going away.............
March 25, 2010 6:21 am

but that didnt stop my hs sister from going to my aunt to help.
Theschool should really cut down on all those tests rihgt b4
pesach.144has a point somtimes boys really do actually help out ………. mazel tov.

i have aquestion...
March 24, 2010 2:58 pm

WHo patches highschoolers!?!?

everyone has to chill!!
March 24, 2010 1:06 pm

pasach is coming so be happy.
everyone thinks different!!!!!!some ppl need the kids help and some people have there cleaning lady doing it.so this lady is saying that she needs lots of help and is not getting it so i suggest you just speak to your kids and NOT WRITE IT ON COLLIVE!

go away 4 pesach...
March 24, 2010 12:18 pm
OY VEY!
March 24, 2010 11:32 am

my goodness! Have any of you ever read tanya. There is something called ATZLUS! That is the secret behind it… (not the derech eretz and chutzpah issues some ppl might think). For soem ppl, being active and helping full time is not as easy as for others. Yup, we learn on the go and you don’t ignore it. But please don’t blame anyone for it! Not the schools, not the tests, not the parents and not the daughters.

Pancakes
March 24, 2010 9:14 am

COL is causing the Shidduch crisis. All I want to say is wether you are a freshman, sophmore, junior, senior, that its all cool, everyone should connect together, in response to #73 patching isn’t a bad thing, all of you Liberal Lubavitchers should go to Bunch of Bagels. Then you should order a whole wheat bagel and shave your beard with a solar powered shaver, after that you should take your Prius and move to San Fransisco. Then if you want you can become a Rabbi, even if you’re a girl! Because everybody is so sexist, like totally! Then you… Read more »

Rabbi Pinchos Woolstone
March 24, 2010 8:24 am

a keli for the children to help their mother prepare for Pesach, will be greatly enhanced if the parents stay calm, no raised voices, a lot of smiling and many hugs
A kosher un Freilichen Pesach
lomir alle praven der Seder mit unser Nosi in Yerushaliyim unsere Heilge Shtot

*to #109*
March 24, 2010 5:23 am

im the one who wrote #90 and if i had more vacation other than 3 days before pesach, i would totally help my mother more. there are enough boys in the community, both boys learning here and those who came home for pesach 2 weeks ago to go pack matzos
and btw, in school we had 4 free periods in a row! now is THAT a waste of time??????

what the hek!!
March 23, 2010 6:53 pm

omg iv never seen so may comment on one thing b4 everyone just STOP!!!!!
DO UR OWN THING AND THATS IT!!!

to #126
March 23, 2010 5:08 pm

oh, im sorry- D-O- Y-O-U-W-A-N-T-U-S-T-O-S-P-E-L-L-E-V-E-R-Y-LE-T-T-E-R-R-I-G-H-T-IM NOT SURPRISED IF YOUR A BOY….. I MEAN GIMME A BREAK! WHAT ARE U MAING SUCH A BIG DEAL OUTTA THIS!? WHO ARE WE TRYING TO IMPRESS? EVERYONE KNOW BRHS TEACHES THEIR STUDENTS WELL, BUT WE DONT -H-A-V-E-T-O-S-P-E-L-L-E-V-E-R-Y-L-E-T-T-E-R-R-I-G-H-T WHEN WERE COMMENNTING MY GOODNESS…

*GO BRM FRESHIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*
March 23, 2010 2:56 pm

heheheheheheheheheh we rock! 🙂

To #108
March 23, 2010 2:40 pm

It’s slang when you don’t put an apostrophe when you’re suppose to. It’s a MISTAKE when you add them to words that don’t need them. It’s slang when you shorten words. It’s a MISTAKE when you have extra letters, which basically means you can’t spell.

* haha
March 23, 2010 2:39 pm

And what if your not

to #114
March 23, 2010 2:28 pm

what if i’m a girl?

* to # 114 *
March 23, 2010 2:24 pm

im the one who wrote # 15… iDONT LIE, i dunno about u but if its ne one u have to let out all UR anger out its on ur amazing, hard work, torture … yeshiva. not a girl. and yes i would switch places with u. id rather learn gemara then grammar or science!( not)
have an easy break from slavery!

85....
March 23, 2010 1:35 pm

i can telll!
why are you on COL if you dont know english?
למה את בכסל אם את/ה לא יודע/ת אנגלית

to #62
March 23, 2010 1:25 pm

wow! your husband does a lot!

1st of all...
March 23, 2010 1:07 pm

what does 31 mean?second girls work dont tell me they dont b/c i m a girl w/ alot a work and ihelp !

rochie
March 23, 2010 12:53 pm

for number 45,”So that doesn’t mean its GOOD to slap your child!”

bais rivkah
March 23, 2010 12:47 pm

i wonder if the principal reads this??
ALSO EVERYBODYIS MAKING SPELLING MISTAKES!!!
DONT YOUR SCHOOLS TEACH YOU HOW TO WRITE

*TO #45*
March 23, 2010 12:28 pm

I have a major question and i hope ull answer me :

why is not slapping ur kids the reason for the shidduch crisis and the failing skewl system?!

ur funny!

stop arguing...
March 23, 2010 11:57 am

Everyone stop arguing if girls or boys learn more! Really, its extremely childish and immature.

To # 89
March 23, 2010 11:05 am

I don’t usually comment on comments but I’m making an exception.

You’re parents are lucky to have such a mature and level headed daughter.

Have a wonderful Pesach and maybe afterwards your mother should give parenting classes in CH!

Yasher Koach for doing the right thing.

To #15
March 23, 2010 10:56 am

DONT YOU HAVE ANYTHING BETTER TO DO IN YOUR LIFE INSTEAD OF LYING?!?!?!?!?!?!?
Bochurim learn much more than girls do, JUST so you knowq!!!
LET ME SEE YOU GOING TO YESHIVA AND SEE IF YOULL BE HAVING A EASY TIME OVER THERE, HUH????????

* hellooooo*
March 23, 2010 9:48 am

Wow your writing a comment not a composition !!

to 107
March 23, 2010 9:36 am

bechlal im even impressed by ur bad spelling most boys cant even write a line!!
good work and yes u do sound like a boy who helps his mom!

lol
March 23, 2010 8:19 am

isnt that what pesach is all about?!?! FREEDOM. School is like mitzrayim, they make us work like slaves, then we are finally set free. All us girls are doing is enjoying our freedom. 🙂 its a miracle!

read post #89
March 23, 2010 7:29 am

Hi,
Well all i can say is read post #89.

we all know BR is overworking the highschool girls (if you dont know it then either talk to some or go and work there)

But take a look at a girl with her priorities straight and a family who is working together to achieve a goal. A girl who understands how hard her mother works to make eveyrhting perfect for her children.

to #90
March 23, 2010 6:41 am

what is better thant you have less time off so you work harder at home and a noter jew gets matzo for pesach. or you dont help with mivtzayim …..and that yid will NOT have matzo….but you have time to relax?!?!?!?!

mesivta bachur

to number 99
March 23, 2010 6:26 am

to #99
umm just btw…. its called slaang like were not gonna spell
every letter right maybe we just want to write quicker,,, or yea,, wtvr… thats way to overboard to post such a comment-no offense

bachur
March 23, 2010 5:59 am

to # 15 we bachurim sit and lern alot more the grils בכלל and we also have מבצעים to do and it is NOT a boy’s job to be in the kichen what, you relly thimk we dont have test’s? you know what you try having a test on 10 דפים with only three day to chazer and then tell me that we dont lern ,work hard, have test’s ‘וכו ? but אם כל זה we still help, claen, work , (and some times cook) even if בדרך כלל we dont belong in the kichen aka ”the grils area” פסח… Read more »

High School Student!
March 23, 2010 5:50 am

The thing that my mother dose for me, She gives me a bunch of jobs, BUT after an hour has past we dont have to do any more. But you really have to work hard on that hour!

To 84
March 23, 2010 4:17 am

Thats not HIS opinion. The Rebbe has said it time after time.

A Boy
March 23, 2010 4:01 am

’15 a high skewl girl u moms dont understand ur daughters, its not chutzpah and by u saying that now ur boys from yeshivah help… well duh they’ve been practically on vacation the entire year doing nothing, why shouldnt they help. on the other ur high skewl girls have been working all year while ur sons are enjoying life. so for all those moms who dont understand ur daughters… GIVE THEM A BREAK! oh and who cares about the bochurim.’ ‘its soooooo true we get a millon test evryday day and when we come home were expected 2 clean while… Read more »

to 78
March 22, 2010 6:22 pm

mrs farkash is the best principal i have ever had,, idk if ur a mom or a student but bais chana is the best.. i simply meant that they dont push us to a breaking point, thank goodness.
[clearly unlike bais rivkah]

to number 90.. my brm classmate :)
March 22, 2010 4:00 pm

im a ninth grade brm girl and all we do in skewl is chill cuz they dont give us teachers (not that i mind)
but id rather be helping my mom.
so yeh its not the girls problem its the skewls.
were only off tuesday b4 erev pesach.
so bottom line BRM get some help and all the moms will benefit.
we dont have to pak matzos for shluchim.. mivtzoyim starts at home. that what my mom said and shes rite!!!!

to #2
March 22, 2010 3:29 pm

everyonse diffrent

why does bais rivkah high school ny give so much time off
March 22, 2010 2:48 pm

it is a big acharayois on their part. If the girls are indeed helping then excellent, but what if they are doing things that they shouldnt be? It”s a very long time to be off from school if they are not helping out.

Spelling and Grammar
March 22, 2010 2:44 pm

What has been posted by the Crown Heights High School girls (and their mothers) is quite terrible. These are not typos. These are really embarrassing mistakes (the word is not ‘alot’ – it’s ‘a lot’). I don’t mean to generalize, so I’m just assuming that every other Bais Rivka girl (hundreds of them) can spell and use grammar correctly.

do what you need to do
March 22, 2010 2:26 pm

Who are you trying to blame?
You are the parent, you give or withhold priveledges. That’s how you do it…

And then you have many conversations with your children about what it means to be part of a family.

dear #65
March 22, 2010 1:44 pm

And you didn’t call the Principal???

ATTN 92
March 22, 2010 1:32 pm

wow, your kids really are amazing! for that i think they deserve a shopping spree

Go Hire a Cleaning Lady
March 22, 2010 1:20 pm

stop whining and hire some help

gratefull mother
March 22, 2010 12:58 pm

my daughter is always helping!!!!

ATTN #12
March 22, 2010 12:54 pm

“bribe them – pizza night out or some cash to buy clothes”

BRIBING HIGH SCHOOL GIRLS DOESN’T WORK! WE’RE PAST THAT STAGE! we respond to rationality and consistency, not cash for clothes and – pizza is the worst idea

“if you clean this part of the house/your room/ the bookshelves you’ll get to go gain all that weight back!”

yaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!!!

you probably don’t have teen kids – and if you do, and they respond to bribery, WOW.

Super kids and cookies
March 22, 2010 12:29 pm

while I was at school teaching my girls surprised me and baked Yummy (Pesach standard) nut cookies. Here’s the recipe (It can be doubled only)
1 egg white beat up When beaten add 1/2 cup sugar till stiff
then add 1 cup ground almonds drop by spoonful onto cookie sheet Bake 20 minutes at 275* can be frozen
Enjoy the cookies and most of all enjoy your kids!
Happy Pesach to all!

Welllll......
March 22, 2010 12:29 pm

In my school we have 2 days before pesach!

high school student :)
March 22, 2010 11:43 am

in my school, most of my classmates would be willing to help more BUT… we’re not even given a week off before pesach!!!! mothers and daughters were complaining. the school gave us 5 hours during the past week to go help shluchim pack matzos (boys mivtzoim) when we could have been helping our mothers or another women without older children! GET UR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT!!!

Sorry to say
March 22, 2010 11:21 am

Hey, i’m a brhs girl, a freshie (9th grade) and im sorry to say, im truly embarressed. Not for myself, but for all those brhs girl that dont lift finger. I know you think were supposed to “stick up” for our school and for all our hard work weve done, with tests everyday and hmwk… but seriously GIVE ME A BREAK. I see my mother a whole year, sweating and trying so hard to maintain a special atmosphere for our family. she works hard and i know she always can use an extra hand. Why would i want to sit… Read more »

uhummm
March 22, 2010 11:08 am

you need your brains examining lady…
you have the problem not them!!!

To#15
March 22, 2010 10:30 am

#1-USE SPELL CHECK!!!
#2-BOYS DO HELP!!!(I’M A BOY)
#3-yOU ARE CRAZY!!!

Wake up 84
March 22, 2010 10:28 am

It’s not sexist. It’s not about cooking and cleaning. Of course girls should receive an education, but when the education supercedes the teaching of the true purpose, that a woman should build and maintain a heilige yiddishe heim with preciuos kinderlach, then the education has lost perspective. This isn’t my opinion. This is explicitly written time after time after time by the Rebbe in Igros after Igros.

i leave in israel and i dont know english well
March 22, 2010 10:28 am

but- i understud all of the text…. YAAAY
הוחכה לכך שאני מהארץ: הנה אני יודעת עברית.. חחח

To #63
March 22, 2010 10:14 am

I found that really sexist. Girls aren’t just good for cooking and cleaning and serving the boys. We have a life and education too, plus we help more.

Shalom shalom shalom (tto benny fridman
March 22, 2010 10:08 am

All of u are cuains machlokes nad that is not cool

so please relax give ur mom a hand and everything will be ok
shalom all yiroel
a kosherin freilichein pesach to u all
may ur homes be only filled with joy over the holidays
gtg bak to cooking so audiuse

tis ringing in my ears.....
March 22, 2010 9:50 am

“Life wasn’t meant to be easy, but that’s no news to me…..”

studens
March 22, 2010 9:48 am

ok brhs students,give me a brake..i know weve had tests and stuff but siriously!!?!?!? it takes maximum one day maaaybe 2 even to rest up…..”We’re home to rest, not to work,” they said. everyone shud be ashamed, ur not home to sit and sit,,,school gave us off so we can help out at home,take the first 2-3 days of vacation,rest up and shop and then just help ur mother,it realy isnt a big deal. and my suggestion to parents:let ur child sleep till 12 and then tell her u let her sleep in and now shes gotta help,i appreciate when… Read more »

Excuse Me..
March 22, 2010 8:58 am

I am a high school student, who ever said that the girlk dont help? The girls help, ALOT MORE THEN THE BOYS!! the boys might be cleaning the fridge, but all year long there working hard. No… they shouldent not do anything but they should still have a break. Mabe tell the people who arent helping that they should help for a hr a day and thats it! if you tell it to them like that they would like to help alot more then if you just gave them job after job!!!

The Schools \Sems are at fault
March 22, 2010 8:54 am

Where is the old fashioned chinuch for girls stressing helping at home ?!? All the girls returning from SEM cannot miss their online shiurim smack in middle of mealtime – Helping at home is #2 nowadays! No problem with the ruchnius gettogethers but after shepping ruchnius all year long can’t the girls come home and help their mother’s ruchnius(re:cleaning for pesach) instead of being occupied with shiurim and attitudes that we as parents cannot bother such holy people with mundane chores… where is the Sem preparation for life?!? Get your act together and pleases think twice chinuch people before the… Read more »

to 75
March 22, 2010 7:18 am

excuse me for saying this but i feel a slight slap to california that u shud move ther to get OUT of hard work..let me tell u this..the high school bais chana of LA is one of the most academic lubavitch schools out there..a well run hard working disciplined school led by a true example mrs farkash who is the epitome of what our school stands for.

listen
March 22, 2010 7:18 am

I THINK KIDS OF ALL AGES ARE NOT AGAINST HELPING THEIR PARENTS. AFTER ALL THEY LOVE THEM.
WHAT YOUR DAUGHTERS ARE LOOKING FOR IS A LISTENING AND COMPASSIONATE EAR TO THIER ISSUES AND CONCERNS.
LSTEN, AGREE, UNDERSTAND THEM, AND BE COMPASSIONATE.
THEN OFFER THEM TO CHOOSE A DAY OFF FROM SCHOOL AFTER PESSACH WHEN IT WILL BE A REAL REST, AND LET THEM SLEEP THAT DAY.
I AM SURE THEY WILL SENSE YOUR DESIRE TO UNDERSTAND AND COMPROMISE AND WILL HELP YOU THEN.
IT’S WORTH A TRY!

Moshiach's Tzeiten
March 22, 2010 6:42 am

Where do we see Vheishiv leiv avos al bonim VLEIV BONIM AL AVOSAV? After Moshiach comes…

To 65
March 22, 2010 6:36 am

Your husband needs to find a new job.

I agree with 19, the only practical suggestion someone has given.

To BRHSers, HA HA HA. move to california 🙂

A kosher un freilichen pesach to all

Paraoh didn't differentiate, so why should u? Part 2!
March 22, 2010 6:14 am

B’h Yes I have read and sympathize with the girls from Beis Rivka I do think the schools should be encouraging helping out at home less tests etc. Ultimatley however we have to start taking some responsibility as teenagers that is the first part of the maturing Process, own up, take action don’t play the blame game. Get rid of this internal chometz this Pesach and get spiritually uplifted because you conquered your urge and helped out another yid (your mother) . This is a test of your Kibud Av veim. So gird yourselfs, pick yourself up and rise to… Read more »

#45
March 22, 2010 6:08 am

Stop Patching your children and Patch yourself! 😛

very simple
March 22, 2010 6:03 am

What do the girls mean they are tired from tests and need a break? They are not home to study. They are home to help cleaning. And aren’t you, the mother, tired of work and cleaning?? That is all the mother has to say: that she is tired of cleaning. Everyone has to pitch in and help.

to all BRHSs
March 22, 2010 5:50 am

thnx for getting me all nervous about high school!!

very nice
March 22, 2010 5:45 am

helping at home is gr8 hachnas for yud alefh nisson

40 i agree completly
March 22, 2010 5:43 am

53-I dont know when you were in school, but every year school gets more and more stressing. Sleeping in etc. is not going to work-sorry everyone who suggested that! I am a shlucha and our chabad house is to small to host a seder for 100 people. So, with my 6 oldests away, its me and my 10-year-old girl who is cleaning our house, chabad house, and the place hosting the seder. Please stop complaining about not having help-even in 5th grade my daughter is having a test or project every day before pesach-talk about busy schedules! She really didnt… Read more »

!!!
March 22, 2010 5:41 am

i agree with number 65

to #65
March 22, 2010 5:23 am

I find that very shocking – I teach too, younger than high school, and I made sure to tell my 7th graders a few weeks ago, that until Pesach I will be giving them little or no homework, because I know that they will have to be helping out at home, and I want them to be able to help their mothers!!! And yes, i did assign something also – but I purposely made it due a week after Pesach, so they’ll have time to work on it after Pesach – I made sure to say that I do no… Read more »

Do the right thing
March 22, 2010 4:50 am

Listen to them, and the boys should do the same.

schools fault
March 22, 2010 4:09 am

My daughters high school teacher assigned a report for right after pesach. When the girls told their teacher that they have to help and wont have time to do it, she was really shocked. She couldn’t believe that the parents make their daughters help. She told them that their job was to be in school and be busy with school and the mothers shouldn’t ask or expect their help.
In my opinion, this teacher should be fired!!!

some wise words
March 22, 2010 2:59 am

one thing is for sure hitting a child is the stupidest thing,and having tests every day could be very stressful.

Too much pressure on the kids
March 22, 2010 1:08 am

A girl’s focus absolutely should be on helping around the home and learning the most important thing of all–how to run a good, yiddishe home and all that entails. Instead, while girls’ learning is vital and necessary, it’s become so full of pressure and so many tests and the whole purpose of school has become skewed. Now you’re left with girls who don’t have time or energy to help their mothers, or neighbors. Wake up yidden. Our chinuch system is severely flawed in many ways. Less schoolwork for the girls and more of a focus on learning how to run… Read more »

I appreciate my own girls more & more
March 22, 2010 1:05 am

These girls need a taste of reality. How about them sitting down & understanding from their parents that THEY don’t get to relax. My husband works 6 days a week. He NEVER gets vacation, because his vacation is Yom Tov…he only gets 2 weeks a year (that’s 10 working days.) He comes home at 7:30-8 every night, rushes to Maariv, eats & works until 1:30 AM. EVERY night. Then he wakes up @ 6 to go to shul & he’s so lucky, he gets to do it all over again the next day. It’s no surprise he crashes every Friday… Read more »

#43
March 22, 2010 1:00 am

Number 43 is EXTREAMLY RIGHT!!!!

To #15
March 22, 2010 12:57 am

By the way, l am an 11 year old boy, and l LOVE to help out for Pesach. If it’s cleaning, preparing for the Seder, etc. I LOVE it!
Boys could also help out. Don’t say, ”Who cares about Bochurim?”!

To #15
March 22, 2010 12:50 am

1. You could still be nice and help at least a little bit.
2. It’s Chutzpidik to speak to a mother ”We came here to rest, not to clean.”
3. Bochurim also learn a lot… It’s not that every other minute they could go for Pizza or Ice Cream!!!!

what in the world???
March 21, 2010 9:55 pm

seriousilly. just bec ur daughters are lazy, the doens’t mean the rest of us girls are. i am a sister, a daughter, and a girl very involved in the community. when someone asks for me help to prepare for pesach, i am there in a heart beat. and i am constatnly telling my married sibling whom i live near, that if his wife needs any help with the kids, or the cleaning, they should let me know and i will b there in a second. i to will spend up the full night b/4 pesach turning overmy kitchen, and i… Read more »

A very wise rabbi once told me...
March 21, 2010 8:22 pm

Shmutz is kein Chamatz nisht un di kinder zeinin nisht kain korben pesach!

if anyone gets to here...
March 21, 2010 8:20 pm

yes, i agree that we as high schoolers should help a lot more, and we dont do it enough, but just remeber-we have a whole few monhs of learning that we want to do, and even tho we do get a ‘break’ every afternoon, its usually filled with programs/chessed jobs/studying/helping in the house..and we want time to chill too! just keep it mind, pls! a FREILICHEN and kosher pesach!

BRHSs
March 21, 2010 7:34 pm

its soooooo true we get a millon test evryday day and when we come home were expected 2 clean while the boys in yeshiva dont do anything they come and go when they want right be4 peasach they give us alot of test dont u think we should at least have a little break

dear mothers and studenst
March 21, 2010 7:29 pm

yes pessach vacation is to relax form school and to help at hooem for pessach. that does not mean, mothers, that your kids need to have the responsability oor the strees, you ar in chrage of it, and they help you. and for those that surely need tima to relax and a break, what do you mean by a break. you wont need to study so many hours for next day test. we should all take pessach preparation not as a “ol” in its hebrew meaning, we left mitzraim laready, but rather make it fun, music, enjoy talking to ur… Read more »

Paraoh didn't differentiate, so why should u?
March 21, 2010 7:15 pm

B’h Yetzias Mitzrayim was truly miraculous and the joy was unlimited only because they appreciated what it meant to be slaves. Yes school work is hard I was once a student too but SO WHAT! that gives no one the excuse that because work is hard elsewhere let someone else do my dirty work and prepare for Pesach. They should come like queens to your seder whilst you come like their shmatte Please inform your girls they better buckle down or else no trip chol hamoed, no new clothes, no computer for sure! (hide the modem or get rid of… Read more »

after you slap her
March 21, 2010 7:11 pm

tell her to put on some music and get with the show

to number 48
March 21, 2010 6:55 pm

im a high school student n my mom doesnt bribe me but if i clean well shell give me a hundred dollars and you know what teenagers like and need money especially if we dont have stable jobs so no your wrong and number 12 is right money can motivate different people. and everyones different i would still help out if she didnt give me that gift but you know not everyones the same ya never know in this case it might work 🙂

Advice
March 21, 2010 6:29 pm

Hang up a list of things that still need to get done INCLUDING shopping for clothes and shoes. Put it in a very prominent place. Go about your day as calm as possible going from one thing to the next. Let them do what they want when they want and how they want, but be very clear about keeping to the list. there is NO shopping until…. gets done. It puts them in control and keeps you calm and everything will get done at the end. A kosherin freilichin Pesach to all. May we merit the coming of Moshiach BEFORE… Read more »

Brhs is the best!!
March 21, 2010 6:18 pm

well guess what we are overworked!! and when we have retarted teachers that we have no reason to respect we start loosing our respect for our elders!!!
FRESHIES ROCK!!

#12
March 21, 2010 6:13 pm

You’re the reason for the shidduch crisis.

are these comments for real?
March 21, 2010 6:06 pm

wow! most of these comments are sooo judgemental! ( I guess this is too!!!) but some really went overboard critisizing the parents – that never helps anyone !!! I admit I have some kids who enjoy and offer to help and others who don’t enjoy and don’t offer and if they do their room I’m happy – and if they do anything else its a bonus!! I accept that like I accept their other idiosyncrasies and try to work on a pleasant atmosphere in the home and not put undue pressure on myself or others!!

BRHS ROX
March 21, 2010 5:57 pm

Go Sophies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#38
March 21, 2010 5:54 pm

I couldn’t agree with you more. Parents are so afraid to slap their kids these days, but I think it is very necessary. I think that is the reason for the failing school system AND the shidduch crisis. How long will it take for you guys to understand that hitting your kid is a good thing. Did you know that the Middah of Gevurah is not necessarily being tough and strict, rather it is a cap on Chessed.

everyones got a point
March 21, 2010 5:46 pm

I remember being in hs and e/o had to go shopping when vacation started, I remember having to help when my “vacation ” started. I did not resent it too much because Pesach is a family hoilday, and if you want pesach to happen, eveyone must chip in. And my mom took me shopping for clothes in between cleaning and cooking-it’s all possible There are 2 problems I see, 1. when i was in hs there were alot! of tests, but for some reason over the years the system has only gotten worse. The girls complaining in the comment of… Read more »

Some suggestions from experience
March 21, 2010 5:43 pm

1) Let them catch up on their sleep. Letting them sleep in always pays off. 2) They need to understand that they are given extra time off school in order to help get ready for Pesach. Pesach is a time when everyone in the family is expected to help out. 3) Give them advance notice of what will be expected from them. At the beginning of the week give them a general idea of what will be getting done that week and every night what will be getting done the next day. 3) Give them a list of several big… Read more »

BR grow up!
March 21, 2010 5:37 pm
both sides have a point
March 21, 2010 5:16 pm

first off, don’t make it sound like ALL girls don’t help and ALL boys do. but i think both parent and studant are right. i’m out of high school already, but believe me it’s tough! but, studants have to understand that they’re not off for “spring break” they’re off for pesach, and that includes the full package (cleaning, cooking, setting up, seving, etc. ) being that they were off already a week, and didn’t do much, that should be enough of a relaxing break, and at this point it’s time to get up and help!!! but , parents please don’t… Read more »

oy vey
March 21, 2010 5:12 pm

I can’t help but notice the large amount of comments from brhs students, who seem to sincerely believe that their pre-Pesach break is meant for them to relax from school! Am I the only one thinking that there’s something a bit off here? When are the mothers supposed to get a break from their regular household duties? Maybe this year we should all be “going on break” because we’re all so overworked. Pesach? oh ya, it’ll get done – by those magic elves…. aka – the mothers on whom the responsibility ultimately falls, and who will stay up late, and… Read more »

give me a break!!
March 21, 2010 5:03 pm

i understand that mothers want their h.s girls to help but the girls do need a break…
they are jammed with exams,tests,quizes weekly and that is hard 4 them…so everyone just cool down ull get it done!!
-but do give them a break!

Old School
March 21, 2010 5:03 pm

Give them a good slap! Tough Love!

my daughters and sons
March 21, 2010 5:01 pm

help so much they scurbbed extra things and work a second after school and they like doing it and enjoy iy K”H they go to a very special school that are resposnible for alot of diffrent things..

spring break
March 21, 2010 5:01 pm

my husband spent his whole spring break from teaching , cleaning garage carpets. when the kids were home they use to help, some more than others but they all had jobs for pesach cleaning and cooking .they all went away to school and came home for pesach. not from CH

BRHS STUDENT!
March 21, 2010 4:54 pm

I am a brhs student and im sorry but im not joking like a little kid who saysd they have tests EVERY SINGLE DAY but i am so serious i litterlaly had tests every single day for the past 2 weeks or more! i mean with all due respecet dosnt any care for us to have a bit of vacation!!!! to just break and relax from all that pressure!?! why do you think high school gives us off a week more of vacation- they know its to relax and yes to clean a bit and help but definatly to use… Read more »

#14 Well Said!!!
March 21, 2010 4:47 pm

Your problem did not start today. Help is not just expected from children on Erev Pesach. In my house, we have jobs every Erev Shabbos and every Moitzei Shabbos. . If you wait till Erev Pesach to teach your kids they need to help, well, sorry but you then are really setting yourself up for failure and you are a bit too late…… However, you can start now to teach your kids, this is all of our families’ house and we all share in the responsibility to make this our special HOME!!! If this does not work, seek proffesional parenting… Read more »

high school graduate
March 21, 2010 4:41 pm

back in my day….i slept in till one and then worked till about 4 (got a lot done) and then chilled for a bit and then did a bit of my room before i went to bed!!

BS"D
March 21, 2010 2:01 pm

That is so so so not true who ever wrote this is wrong my girls AND boys help the same and even mopre then last year

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