Words of the Rebbe on Chol Hamoed Sukkos, 5747 · October 19, 1986 from JEM’s Living Torah video magazine:
I recently publicized a heartfelt request that everyone “Make for themselves a mentor,” and to encourage others to do the same. Even if you think you don’t need one, Torah commands that you appoint a mentor for yourself.
Follow the advice of the Mishna, which says: “Make for yourself a mentor” – you choose the mentor and you initiate the relationship.
If you find it difficult because there is no one “good enough” for you – Torah does not ask more than you are capable of; the very fact that the Mishna demands it is proof positive that you can achieve it, if you only really want to.
Every person must find a mentor and seek his advice in personal matters. Which matters take precedence?
Those areas in which the person himself knows that he is not acting correctly, or areas where one is unsure how to proceed. And out of love for your fellow Jew, encourage others to find their own mentor, as well.
if you want i can be your mashpia just give me a call!
thanks
I dont trust anyone.and a true mashpia I THINK is someone who dos not want the job. so tonight i ask the rebbi for help because i realy need one. hashem should bless all.
Either you’re clueless, or you have no idea…
As #1 said: There should be some sort of list, where folks can, so-to-speak, choose a Mashpia.
I would have a mashpia, had I found someone right, that I trust.
A list would enable you to pick through, and check the contect.
its actually quite simple. find someone, an older girl if you are a girl or an older boy if you are a boy. it should be someone you respect and look up to, and ask them to be your mashpia. its simple, and you’re doing what the Rebbe wants! Moshiach now!
thanx so much for posting this, really appreciate it!
hoowww?? busy to be a mashpia??
psshh so this people are really chassidishes, LOL!
NOONE CAN SAY IM BUSY TO BE A MASHPIA!!
THE REBBE TOLD US TO HAVE, SO THAT MEANS ALSO THAT IF SOMEONE ASKED U TO BE HER/HIM MASHPIA U NEED TO SAY: YEAH!
COLLIVE YASHER KOACH
for posting holy & inspiring material!
Everyone says they are too busy to be a mashpia. Great, eh?
A mentor who inpsires you is a wonderful thing to have. But to utilize your mentor (as the Rebbe suggests here) to firstly request advice on issues one knows one is not behaving properly on, is to risk alienation, ostracization, and at worst, lashon hora. After all, this mentorship is still new and the mentor hasn’t yet been proven to be discreet.
I suggest you test your mentor by discussing more “neurtral”, “safe” topics first. Once they’ve earned your trust, only THEN should one open up about issues and behaviors they know they’re not conducting according to torah or halacha.
So how about putting up a list of available mashpiam for men and women. I would like to get one but have no idea how